We often hear in Spiritual Circles about “the importance of speaking one’s truth”. Yet so often, I hear from people that when they do this, such as in family groups for example, others frequently resist; they still work to pigeon-hole you into the ‘norm’ – they still try to stick you in that labeled box that they’re comfortable with. Short of completely walking away from the relationship, what choice are you left with? Personally I believe “speaking one’s truth” is a misnomer and we would better be served by speaking more in terms of “expressing one’s truth”. What’s the subtle difference and why’s it so important?
Challenging the old ‘norms’
I recall leaving a marriage which simply wasn’t working. I’d gone through a massive spiritual expansion, and despite months of marriage guidance counseling, working to find common ground, my partner couldn’t accept who I now was. She’d frequently project judgment at me and try to contain me in the old comfortable ‘slippers’. Even after our marriage ended, I’d still experience massive projection on daily visits to see our kids.
Like many on the spiritual path, there was a strong compulsion to “speak my truth”. Yes, I had changed; yes, that had affected the marriage, but it’s vitally important that a person honours who they are at a soul level. Otherwise your True Self can’t fully expand and grow.
Parents found it extremely challenging too. They’d known me a certain way. All of their conditioning desperately wanted to keep me in the old identity, suffocating me down into the old way of being. No matter how I tried to share, nothing seemed to work. I’d end up in repetitive conversations or arguments that would go nowhere. Worse still, I found myself inwardly constrained by the old identity.
But then something changed…I watched the Matrix!
Changing the Narrative
There’s a great scene at the end of the first film where Neo puts up his hand to incoming bullets and says “No!” Most importantly though, energetically, he expresses “No!” It caused me to remember a deeper aspect of my Cosmic Self: he was expressing what I know to be the “Spiritual Samurai”. And most importantly, how you can influence the field – shift 3D reality – from that place.
If you continue to engage in a relationship that simply won’t acknowledge who you are and who you feel to be, if you keep trying to explain yourself, then in effect you are defending yourself. And by defending yourself, inadvertently you’re honouring the attack – you’re actually making it real by continuing to engage in those disempowering loops of behaviour that are resistant to change. It is these loops, that when activated, perpetuate the old existence, the old reality.