7 Steps to Healing the Wounds

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By Phyllis King

The art of expansion requires we embrace each part of ourselves by seeing the value of each aspect of our experience. This allows our wholeness to reveal itself to us and includes embracing our wounds as well as our perceived flaws.

It is human nature to want to leave the negative past behind and feel the “good” stuff. The ego mind defines happiness as comfort and pleasure. The soul sees all experiences as abundant. In order to expand energetically, which is what life is (an energy game); we must learn to see the value in each moment, not just the happy and comfortable moments.  If we brush off our feelings or moments without seeing the value, we unintentionally deny value. We essentially tell the divine “you got it wrong.” If we put that message into consciousness, our outcomes will be limited.

The process of expansion is more than just getting stuff. It’s more than having our relationships work out. It’s more than connecting with life purpose. It’s about embracing the wholeness of who we are – that is the single most abundant act any human being can do. It’s everything. Once you have everything, you can have anything your ego desires.

How do we recognize our wounds and not run from them? Most often we recognize wounding through our teachers. You may ask, “Who are our teachers?”  They are our spouses who infuriate us or don’t meet our needs; our family members who don’t treat us as we wish they would; our boss or co-worker who demean and control us in various ways; our children who do the opposite of what we would like them to do; even our friends who disappoint us. These people and situations represent opportunities for learning; they are our teachers.

When you find yourself feeling angry, worried or certain you would be just fine “if only” someone or something outside of yourself would shift – that is your teacher and what you need to address inside of yourself. Your reaction that resists the present moment, taking personally what someone else does or causes you to become offended are golden opportunities to shift and expand internally. Those feelings move us away from our center of power and well-being. It is only us who can reclaim our power. We do that inch-by-inch by allowing ourselves to embody a perspective of abundance no matter what life shows us.