Japan and A Weird Syndrome

In these days, you can see many weird things. As some Iranians say: “the anti-Iran Front, aka United Barbarians, has lost its mind. These Barbarians, from the Barbarian UK to the savage Jews/ Arabs/ etc, are just revealing the truth of the West’s DNA. Now it’s clear that ‘Lie, Censorship, and Barbarism is part of British DNA’ and ‘Hypocrisy, Stupidity, and Corruption is part of American DNA’ [...] Just look at their stupid UNESCO. The uncultured Turks of Azerbaijan act like Taliban and destroy Nezami’s museum, but UNESCO says nothing about this Anti-Cultural move. The Azeri people, as a part of the Iranian nation, protest against Azerbaijan’s regime, but UNESCO loves the anti-Cultural regimes! [...] Now Rouhani and his cabinet act like the stupid Turks. They are in a hurry to show their true face. They lick the ass of the UK/ US/ IMF, while people know and say many things about this British Rouhani (ie Hassan Mullah that his real name is Hassan Freydoon). Now even the Western media talks about’the role of Rouhani in the Iran Contra Scandal‘. They say: ‘Do you know who was one of the three Mullahs the cake-bearing McFarlane dealt with in Tehran 27 years ago? He was Hassan Rouhani’! (Washington Post)” In these days, as the wise Iranians say: “the Iranian people say good things about British Rouhanis/ Mullahs, who are in a hurry to prove that all Mullahs are anti-Iranian stooges of the West/ IMF and Rouhani is worse than AhmadiNejad (AN)! But we can wait and see how Rouhani proves the truth of what is said about him”. In these days, many things are weird and laughable. As the wise Iranians say: “The British Media, their big lies and their horrible censorship are so laughable, and just show that even ‘the Guardian, ie the UK most prestigious media, is nothing but a cesspool of spies and stooges”. But here lets ignore such facts. In these days, the mass media says: “Young people in Japan don’t care about s-e-x” or “Japan Has Given Up on S-e-x”. Of course as some Iranians say: “what the mass media says in October 2013 is a copy of (‘No S-e-x and the City’) [4] in July 2013″. But now many talk about a ‘weird thing’ in Japan: “Recent Japanese studies point to a startling trend among the nation’s under-40s: a rising aversion to s-ex and dating” [4] The media says Japan is the land of the 40 year old virgins! or Japan is moving to a sexless society. “A 2013 JFPA survey found that 45% of women ages 16 to 24 were not interested in or disliked s-e-xual contact .. A 2011 government survey reported that 49% of Japanese women ages 18 to 34 don’t have any boyfriend, husband [or s-e-xual partner]“[4] It’s weird. Some say: “No way this can be correct”. But as many know, Japan has failed to address the complex issue of ‘Modernism and
Traditionalism’. “Traditional values” and ‘modern problems’ is a central theme in many good Japanese works – including ‘Oshin’ (1983-4), the most popular TV series in Japan and Iran, and good Japanese movies like “Castaway on the Moon” (2009), that is about Japanese youths and their problems, including severe depression. As some wise Iranians say: “Japan has a traditional and weird society. In a 2012 government survey, 51% of the Japanese population said they believed women should stay at home while men go out to work[4] But at the same time the Japanese are too busy playing video games and watching robotic-crappy films. As some say: ‘the Japanese 30-year old virgin only get turned on when they watch female robots!’ In the 1980s, the Japanese animations were among the best works in the world. But now their children are watching stupid things. Japan’s paradoxes are tragicomic. In the real world, they live in a traditional society, but their children live in a weird, unreal world. As some say: ‘their expectations of each other have not adjusted. Many men still want women to be submissive, while women are turned off by these men’ [4] Japan suffers from a weird combination of ‘Modernism and Traditionalism’. And this weird problem leads to weird Syndromes. As some say: ‘while around 53% of adult Americans and 82% of Brazilians has s-e-x at least once a week, only 34% of Japanese do [4]“. Many surveys, specially Western surveys, are not reliable. What Gallup and others say about Iran is nothing but big laughable lies, and it raises doubts about all Western surveys. For instance, when they say: ’40% of American women have never been married, and 20% of American women in their 40s have not had children’! Is it correct? Who knows! But what is said about Japan is based on the Japanese surveys, not the Western surveys. In 2010, the Japanese media reported: ‘one-third (32.7%) of the Japanese people say they had no s-e-x at all in 2009″ ! [6] As some wise Iranians say: ‘the Japanese media talks about ‘S-exless marriage’ [6][7] It’s understandable. But they add: ‘Few married women interested in having an affair’ [7] It’s weird. They say: ‘nearly half of all marriages in Japan are se-xless’ [7] It’s understandable. But when they poll ‘married women in their 40s. Question 1: Have you ever had an extra-marital affair?’ No, say … 89.2%’ [7] It’s weird. ‘Question 2: Have you ever wanted to have an affair? Another landslide victory for the no’s – 87.9% versus 12.1%’ [7] As they say: ‘It’s Shocking’ [7] What the Japanese say about the whys is paradoxical: ‘My children and home are important to me (cited by 44% of respondents); It’s unthinkable from a moral point of view (42%); I haven’t met anyone (23%) … I’m afraid my husband would find out (10%)” [7]. Japan is quite an old fashioned place in many respects. But they care much about Hollywood and the Western fashion’. Japan has followed the West like sheep. But as some say: ‘what the Japanese men want, ie the ideal Japanese woman is cute, se-xy, and quiet‘ [9] Japan is not a ‘ladies first’ culture, so as some say: if a guy treats a Japanese girl with basic good manners like opening doors and such, she tends to be impressed [9] Japan suffers from weird problems. As many say: ‘millions of young people aren’t even dating because they feel so apathetic about s-ex. This is a real thing, Japanese media is calling it sekkusu shinai shokogun, which translates to celibacy syndrome”.

The Western media just repeats what the Japanese media says [6][7]. As the media reports: “[In Japan] a survey in 2011 found that 61% of unmarried men and 49% of women aged 18-34 were not in any kind of romantic relationship. Another study found that a third of people under 30 had never dated at all. Many have reached their mid-30s without managing to move out of home. About 13 million unmarried people in Japan who currently live with their parents, around three million are over the age of 35 [Many] can’t relate to the opposite s-ex physically or in any other way. They flinch if I touch them,’ a Japanese counselor says” (Oct 2013). As some wise Iranians say: “If they say: there is no marriage in Japan. It can be understandable. But when they say: there is no s-e-x. It’s weird. And when they say: ‘there is no intimacy’ or ‘there is no friendship’! It’s horrible. But apparently, the lack of friendship and the lack of intimacy is a serious problem in Japan today. It’s what you see in their movies and their media”. As the wise Iranians say: “We all should ask: What has happened? Why many Japanese say: I care about my job. I lost interest in dating’. Does the Japanese Culture of Hard Work, ie the Culture of Workaholic, create nothing but a bunch of robots, who has no emotion, even s-exual emotions? Japan still has a traditional society. Their media says: Married working women are sometimes demonized as ‘Devil wives’. So, it’s obvious why Japan’s Institute of Population and Social Security reports an astonishing 90% of young women believe that staying single is preferable to marriage. But marriage and intimacy are two different things. And the main question is Why Japan is experiencing ‘a flight from human intimacy’? It’s a weird fact, and many talk about it. It’s much more weird and much more important than what a Japanese counselor says: ‘Sometimes, for an extra fee, I get naked with my male clients to physically guide them around the female form’! The Japanese men say: ‘a large tribe of men under 40 live without s-e-x .. I don’t earn a huge salary to go on dates .. I don’t want the responsibility of a woman .. I’ve learned to live without s-e-x .. Emotional entanglements are too complicated. I can’t be bothered .. I don’t have time for a regular girlfriend’. You should ask why their men say such things, and why their girls say: ‘I don’t miss boyfriends or s-e-x. I don’t even like holding hands .. I don’t have time for a regular boyfriend’. In the 1980s, the Japanese animations taught children about life skills and human intimacy. But now most of the Japanese animations/ children movies are stupid”. In these years many say: ‘under the surface, Japan is conservative and traditional”[1][2][3][4][5] But while Iranians can understand many things in Japan, Westerners cannot. They think Japan is weird, because: “Apartments and houses are [small]. Most people sleep on the floor. Homes and apartments do not have central heating and air conditioning, but each room has a heater/air conditioner unit. Domestic lighting tends to be fluorescent. It’s brighter. Japanese follows a SOV (subject, object, verb) order rather than English which follow a SVO (subject, verb, object) order” [2] The West cannot understand Japan, but now the Western media says: “Is Japan providing a glimpse of all our futures? Many of the shifts there are occurring in other advanced nations, too”. They also add: “With a vast army of older people and an ever-dwindling younger generation, Japan may become the land of the old people. It’s our future .. Aversion to marriage and intimacy in modern life is not unique to Japan” (Oct 2013). The West and the mass media don’t care about the roots of problems. But ordinary people ask good questions [1][8][9]. The people’s comments are better than what the mass media says. Ordinary people say: “No Japanese men serves food to a Japanese women .. Why do the Japanese, especially girls, stare at foreigners? .. Xenophobia is a serious issue in Japan .. In the Japanese values, premarital s-e-x is a bad thing .. Cohabiting or unmarried parenthood is still unusual in Japan .. they suffer from a conflict [between traditionalism and modernism]“.

Some say: “Don’t take these silly polls serious. They are merely meant to sell magazines”. But in these years, many ordinary people talk about Japan’s problems. For instance, in “What It’s Like to Be Female and Foreign in Japan” [3], an American woman says: “[In Japan] cute baristas at Starbucks wouldn’t look at me, business men on bicycles ran over me and college students hurriedly backed away from me with mumbled apologies whenever I tried to strike up a conversation about the weather or ask for directions”[3] What she says is funny. “Most days I felt unattractive, unwanted and worst of all, unfemale … when not even a short skirt or slinky top attracted more than a passing glance and even construction workers, who could usually be counted on for a leer, regarded me with bored, blank expressions, I felt very, very alone”! [3] You can laugh at this American woman, or see her as a big loser. But she is not alone, and many say something like: “In [Japan], the nerd is king .. Those men wouldn’t have been able to score a date at home if they’d been a calender but in [Japan] they’d nabbed the prom queen .. Japanese woman see Western men -even the nerdy ones- as attractive dating prospects”[1][3][6][9]. Of course as some Iranians say: “when Western women talk about ‘traditional, close-minded Japanese men’, many say: ‘you can keep the Western women in the west. They are fat, evil and smell like yeast. In addition, they think that everyone should praise them! They seem to be expecting some thing that they do not deserve’! It’s not clear who is right and who is wrong! But American women have a terrible reputation. American women are a common object of ridicule among other nations”. Some websites like Stippy.com [1] talk about “the Japanese way of chauvinism” [1] They say: “s-e-xual harassment is another cultural part of Japan, that happens on a daily basis at most places of work in Japan” [1] They also say: “The Japanese are s-e-xist in the same way that they are racist” [1] “For many foreigners in Japan, ‘Gaijin’ (foreigner) in most circumstances means ‘You are an outsider and will never belong to Japanese society” [1] But Japan is not alone in suffering from these problems. Many are aware of the story of Racism in the West. And as some say: “Rates of psychological illness in Japan and the United States are comparable: 24% of Japanese adults and 25% of American adults have suffered some sort of mental health problem” [5] Of course some say weird things about Japan: “it will definitely shock you to hear that many Japanese women have never even looked at their v-a-gina!” [1] As some wise Iranians say: “It also shocks you to hear that ‘According to surveys cited by the Japanese newspaper (Yomiuri Shimbun) more and more young people have problems making friends in the real world and resort to actually paying for rented friends in order to avoid being seen alone and labeled as loners’ [8] ‘Rent a Friend’ or ‘Fake Friend service’ [8] in Japan is shocking, mainly because ‘there is nothing s-e-xual about this kind of rent-a-friend service. Lonely Japanese people are just looking for someone to act as their friend’ [8] In 2007, some said: ‘Japanese people don’t have enough s-ex -at least according to condom manufacturer Durex’s survey of s-ex lifestyles around the world’ [8] Japan is the main producer of AV films in Asia. But as some say: ‘Japanese AV films (p-o-rnographic videos) are [unreal things], reality doesn’t mirror movie magic. [8] Japan is a weird traditional society. As some say: ‘many young people still live at home with their parents. So, where do couple go to, ‘do it’? The so-called love hotels are the answer’ [9] ‘These hotels feature [many things] all to be paid anonymously into a machine’ [9] Japan is so weird. ‘Sometime ago, one of the TV stations in Japan organized a contest in which men had to call their wives and talk to them as long as possible to earn money. The conversations were unbelievably hilarious since most women were too shocked to find that their husbands actually wanted to talk to them and wanted to terminate the conversation as soon as possible’, some Japanese say. Japan is really the land of weird and paradoxical things”.

In 2012, the US media had headlines like: “Japan Population Decline: Third Of Nation’s Youth Have ‘No Interest’ In S-e-x” [5] They said it’s a bad thing that “Japan Population Decline”! And now, in 2013, as the wise Iranians say: “the US and the UK shed crocodile tears for Japan’s shrinking population. But as many know, Japan has been seriously overcrowded for years. Japan has one of the highest population densities in the world. Lessening that to something a bit more sane is actually good. Some say: ‘[Maybe] by 2100 only 60 million people live in Japan’. But it’s not a bad thing. It’s not equal to Extinction, as idiots say. But the real problem is: In 2100, only 60 million people live in Japan, but 50 millions of them are old, retired people! It’s a serious problem”. They also add: “It’s good that many hate marriage and don’t want to act like baby-making machines. And it’s good that many love marriage, or want to have children. A good balance between these two groups can create a better world. In the story of Japan, marriage is not the main issue, as the media says. The main issue is intimacy & friendship. We should ask: Why most of the Japanese people are workaholic, depressed, or alone? Why friendship & intimacy are fading away? why s-ex is fading away, and depression is on the rise?! Why some Japanese say: I’d rather spend my money on clothes [etc] than buying women dinner or gifts’ [4], while women are not s-e-x objects or baby-making machines? [4]“. They also add: “the Japanese media reports: ’33.5% of the Japanese said they didn’t see any merit in marriage” [7] But it’s not ‘a national catastrophe’, as the West says. In the world today those individuals who never marry exist in significant numbers. And it’s not a bad thing. Problems like depression, pessimism, living like sheep, obeying Big Brother, corrupt scientists, corrupt media etc are bad things, and that’s why the West ‘might eventually perish into extinction”. The Japanese put good comments in their media: “Japan is an overworked overstressed nation where people spend far more time laboring away at the office than they do with family or friends .. Everyone is communicating here but people are losing their social skills. Why? Online everything replacing real relationships and connections with people .. Stress is a key factor in why people are not managing to focus on their personal lives .. s-e-xless marriages in Japan [and the West] have a common root: deception and depression .. more men are over worked at their jobs and come home without the energy .. decades ago, S-ex in this country was replaced by Narcissism .. [it's funny that] Japan has produced more adult movies than Asian nations” [6][7]. The American comments are funny and informative, too: “A theory that seeks to explain Japan’s shrinking population is that they spend too much time engaged with technology .. many young women still live with their parents; it’s the [main problem !] .. I kind of envy the Japanese, because they are so far ahead of us” ! [5] As some wise Iranians say: ‘Apparently, most Westerners live like sheep and/or slaves. As Snowden says: Ignorance is the main problem of the US and the West. Most Americans even don’t care about their own freedoms/ rights. They think Ignorance is Strength! Even their scientists/ intellectuals are slaves of Big Brother, and have been poisoned with money. It’s the main problem of the West, and it will lead to the End of the West. Now the West is morally, culturally, economically, and intellectually bankrupt”. The Western analysts say stupid things, but the wise Iranians say good things like: “The children movies and animations should be free of se-x and violence, and should show children good things like human values, real friendship, life skills etc. In the recent years, the Japanese animations, their characters, and their stories are really stupid. But in the 1980s, Nippon (a Japanese company) produced very good animations. Nippon had ‘the World Masterpiece Theater series’ and TV series based on good novels and good works of literature. The golden years of the anime industry (Japanese animation) was the late 1970s and the 1980s. At that time, they cared about themes such as loyalty, friendship, life skills, etc. ‘The World Masterpiece Theater series’ have several masterpieces, and Iranians have watched almost all of them”. We should write more about the children movies/ animations, specially those good animations that Iranians watched them in the 1980s. At that time (1980s) both kids and adults could enjoy the Japanese animations, which were based on good novels and good stories. Iranians still remember Nippon’s animations like: ‘Swiss Family Robinson’ (Dr Ernest’s Family) (1981), ‘The Story of Perrine’ (1978), “Lucy of the Southern Rainbows” (Mohajeran
[Immigrants]) (1982), “Alps Stories: My Annette” (1983), “Katri, Girl of the Meadows” (Hanna) (1984), and other good works of Nippon’s ‘the World Masterpiece Theater series’. Many people, even in Europe, Canada, etc have watched these good animations. But as the wise Iranians say: “the cultural and historical roots are important [...] In Japan and other countries, ‘World Masterpiece Theater’ aired from 1970 to 1997. And in Iran, it aired from 1980. But the media and their programs had and have two different effects on Iran and Japan (and the West). In Iran, the younger generation are among the most informed and wise people in the world and history. But in Japan and the West, their younger generation suffer from many serious problems, including Ignorance. And the main question is: Why?”. Think about it. We would write more about this issue later.

For more information:

[1] Stippy.com [authors have lived the last 10 years in Japan; their most popular article: “Is Japan really S-e-xless?”]
[2] “Expat Life in Japan”, 2011 [URL:
h-t-tp://lifeinjapanjason.blogspot.com/2011/09/expat-life-in-japan.html] [3] “What It’s Like to Be Female and Foreign in Japan”, URL: h-t-tp://www.vagabondish.com/female-foreign-japan/
[4] “No S-e-x and the City”, July 2013 , URL:
h-t-tp://www.marieclaire.com/world-reports/no-sex-and-the-city [5] “Japan Population Decline: Third Of Nation’s Youth Have ‘No Interest’ In Se-x”, Jan 2012, in the US media
[6] JapanToday.com: “S-e-xless in Japan” (Jan 2010)
[7] JapanToday.com: “Few married women interested in having an affair” (Aug 2013), “33% of Japanese think marriage is pointless” (July 2013) [8] Articles like: “Japan’s Lonely Youth Turns to Rent-a-Friend Services” (March 2013), “Big in Japan: Japanese people don’t have enough s-e-x” (2007), “Celibacy Over S-e-x: an Emerging Trend in Japan” (Aug 2013)
[9] Blogs like: h-t-tp://japanexplained.wordpress.com/,
h-t-tp://lifeinjapanjason.blogspot.com