by Jacqueline Hawkins
Despite the mayonnaise a pro-abort student smeared over one of our signs, there were some real gems that appeared throughout the two days we brought GAP to North Carolina State University.
Chastity and purity. A young black woman told Jane she and her boyfriend have mutually agreed their bodies belong to the Lord, and their physical relationship will comprise only hand-holding until marriage. She has turned down many Christian young men as dating partners because they could not see anything wrong with kissing and whatever that led to.
Hard, but softened by friends. A male and female student were sitting near the display. Jane watched them for a couple of minutes and thought she saw them praying. Jane walked over and asked if they had questions or comments. She asked if they had, indeed, been praying for us. “Yes, we were. We are here to spread Jesus on our campus and we wanted to pray for you guys.” The young woman’s last comment was, “Being a Christian is the hardest thing I have ever done.” It is, but it is made easier by praying friends.
No choices for her. “I am a single mom. I have a 13-year-old and a 2-year-old. When I got pregnant 3 years ago, as an educated, upwardly mobile black woman with tenure on this campus, I got no support for my decision to keep my baby. Two different faculty members asked me, ‘Can I take you to get it taken care of?’ and ‘What are you going to do with it?’ There was no ‘choice’ for me unless my choice was theirs as well.”
Spared from gendercide. A student from India told the story of his very blessed mother. “My mom grew up in a rural village in India where baby girls were thrown down into a well in order to kill them. My mom was spared because our family had a little more money apparently. She used to play by that well. She didn’t know until she was an adult who was inside. Years later, an Indian man, educated in America where he also made a lot of money, returned to that small village and built a school just for girls. Times are changing in rural India but it is slow.” He pointed to the pictures and said, “This is horrible as well.”
Grab-n-go info. “So what if the woman is raped?” asked a male student. CBR volunteer acknowledged the horror of rape and gave our standard answer. “OK, what if the woman’s life is in danger?” Patti answered with our script about having two patients [mother and child] that we may or may not be able to save. “Got it! Thanks” He kept moving. No argument! No questioning my sources! No extreme examples and exceptions! He made Patti’s day!
Wisdom through pain. Jane and I spoke to a very nice married couple when they came by during their lunch break. They thanked us for being there. “People need to see this,” the husband said. He was a librarian at the NC State library. The wife had an abortion years ago, after her daughter was diagnosed with a disease. Her daughter would have been in her late teens by now. Now the couple has trouble conceiving. The wife sagely asserted that you never know what the future holds. You need to treasure the children you are blessed with now, regardless of your situation, because you may not be able to have more in the future. This is especially true after an abortion. We directed the wife to the Deeper Still table to learn more about post abortion counseling and retreats. They were good people that God will hopefully bless with more children one day.
Jacqueline Hawkins is a CBR Project Director and a regular FAB contributor.