Love, Intimacy and Despair

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Love, Intimacy and that Inner Space Called Despair

by Georgi Y. Johnson

No matter how much we have experienced the beauty, bliss and ecstasy of our inner core in meditation and life, there still emerges a front line of service in the area of intimate relationships. We could seem enlightened to the whole world, but in the kitchen with our partners, sometimes a simple gesture or look can crush us – sending us cascading into a forbidden space of despair, isolation or hopelessness.

Why is this?

Are we withholding a part of ourselves, or is there some kind of devil’s valley between the inherent, unconditional unity we know is there, and the celebration of love, intimacy and togetherness?

Called poetically the “valley of the shadow of death”, this area is pure shadow-land of all the transient forms of creation. It is a shadow-land because for all the tremendous beauty of creation and being human, and being here now, the transience – or passing away of it all – is inherent to that same beauty. Physical life is so much more precious, because it will end, sooner or later.

This means that we could have the perfect partner – one who is fulfilling, nurturing, and emanating unconditional love and care. Yet this partner, in this form, WILL leave us – or we will leave them – if not by choice, then through ageing and death. This death bell is ringing moment by moment through every relationship. We can only kiss the joy as it flies – we cannot hold onto it.

If we bring this transience to the micro scale, it is happening also moment by moment. Perception through beauty is made possible through the realization of the transience of what is perceived. It can’t be held onto, fixed, or defined, it always escapes. In a way. At the same moment we are in love, ecstasy and joy, we are also are abandoned, releasing all forms, moment by moment. This is part of the dance of being here together.

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