Reinventing the Golden Rule

Reinventing the Golden Rule

by Michelle Butt

We are all familiar with the Golden Rule. If you are like me, you probably have memories of your mother reminding you to remember the Golden Rule, which states, “Do unto others as you would like done unto you.”

In theory, doing unto others as we would like done unto ourselves seems like a noble approach to human relations. Yet, in practice, it has not always worked effectively. As a face reader, I have come to realize that the Golden Rule needs to be rewritten. You see, when you look at the face of another, the understanding that you gain challenges the rule.

In essence, people don’t want to be treated the way you want to be treated, they want to be treated the way they want to be treated. The single, most effective way to determine just how they want to be treated is to look at their face. The face gives us a window into the innate personality and behavioral choices of another person. We can see the effect of their life experiences on their faces, and often times understand how they have been treated and how they really do want to be treated. The comprehension and application of this new twist on the Golden Rule could remarkably change the course of your relationships and communication with anyone you come in contact with.

For example, if you are someone with a face with full cheeks and a generous mouth, you will be a natural born nurturer. Your first inclination when you meet someone new may be to give them a big hug and ask them about their family or feed them because that is how you would want to be treated.

However, if the person you were meeting for the first time had a prominent nose, narrow jaw and sunken rear lower cheeks, they would not want to be greeted with a hug. In fact, such a greeting could completely throw them off. They need their personal space respected until they can acclimatize to your big energy. They would prefer to discuss the matter at hand before letting you into their family life. There could also be a good chance that they have food sensitivities and would not want to be fed by a new acquaintance. Knowing how this person’s face says they would want to be treated would help you as the nurturer to guide your meeting and communication in a direction that gives them resonance with you at that first encounter.