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Codependent, Addicted, Toxic Love: How to Break Free

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By Kelly Brogan, M.D.

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

If you’ve ever wondered why you’re always attracted to “the wrong person,” this exploration is for you.

First, what even is attraction?

Is it pheromonal? Aesthetic? Does it grow from familiarity? Or spring forth when we feel another’s desire for us?

Here, we will be focusing on erotic magnetism—an aspect of a type of relationship variously called an Imago match, a “Twin Flame” dynamic, or a plain old toxic love affair.

Why we pick who we pick

We might like to think that we choose partners based on a personal checklist: values, attributes, and characteristics, in a meaningfully arranged hierarchy of importance. Perhaps like one of those boxes with different shaped holes, we can hold each potential partner up to our shape of choice and the one that slips through will win!

Unfortunately, this framework does not account for the quite powerful (and unconscious!) dimensions of attraction and partnering.

We learned what love is from our caregivers and because we were loved conditionally, we learned which of our behaviors resulted in connection and which resulted in withdrawal of parental affection, approval, and warmth, or worse, resulted in violence. In the crucible of these hot and cold dynamics, with neglect, actual abandonment, and emotional, verbal, and physical abuse, we made a study of our parents so that we could read and anticipate what would keep them appeased.


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