The Dying Art of Femininity

I can still remember how a girl I knew closed a kitchen cupboard with a motion of her hips. This happened 46 years ago when I was 20!

When Andelin writes that a feminine woman is never “crude, vulgar, harsh, overbearing or critical,” it is apparent that the fair sex is being deliberately degraded and neutered by the media. “All your conversation should reflect tenderness, patience, forgiveness, tolerance and love.”

A wife’s first priority is her husband and then her children. Thus a single woman will consecrate herself for her future husband and children as much as possible. She will not be promiscuous.

Wives tend to put career, friends, parents, success and appearance before their husbands. “If you are a successful career woman, keep your priorities straight,” Andelin writes. “Let your husband know by words and actions that he is number one.” (95)

The woman’s primary role is to be wife, mother and homemaker. The man’s role is to be guide, protector and provider. This doesn’t mean women can’t have careers or men can’t cook or change a diaper.

A man needs to feel that he is needed, and that he excels his woman in his role. If she becomes independent, he may question his purpose and his feelings for her “since his romantic feelings partly arise from her need to be protected, sheltered and cared for.” (102)

A woman should accept her husband at face-value and not try to change him. His pride and freedom are inviolable. She should focus on his good qualities and he will improve naturally in response to her.

Reactions to Andelin are either very positive or very negative. One minister wrote on Amazon:” I have given approximately 250 copies of this book to women I have counselled in the past 5 years. In this period of time, I have yet to see ANY of them NOT improve their marriage by working on what they bring to the marriage, as an individual and to the whole.”

Many women find the book outdated and laughable. One contentious point is that Andelin advises wives to adopt a childlike petulance when upset with their husband. A lot of women find this demeaning. But in practice, most men will respond positively when their authority is not directly challenged.

Andelin may be outdated at times but she has the basic principles right; it’s up to us to adopt them.

Beautiful women are a dime a dozen but feminine women are extremely rare. The world suffers the loss of feminine spiritual qualities: trust, modesty, grace, innocence, serenity, tenderness, patience and love. This is behind the male obsession with pornographic sex. Men unconsciously seek femininity and love to balance them. The restless masculine spirit seeks a calm harbour.

Young women don’t realize that men find purity and innocence very attractive. Conversely, they are repelled by tough, jaded, experienced women. The willingness of women today to be promiscuous often can be counterproductive.

THE MONSTROUS HOAX

Men and women are the victims of a cruel hoax. They are taught that sexual differences are “socially conditioned.” Ironically this lie is the actual “social conditioning”. Sexual differences are inborn. For example, males have ten times the level of testosterone as women, and this determines their willingness to take risks, etc. Sex roles express natural differences and form the spice of life.

Feminism’s Marxist principles of “equality” do not apply to loving heterosexual relationships and are in fact toxic. As I often say, heterosexual marriage is based on the exchange of female worldly power for male power expressed as love. Equal power neuters both sexes.

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Related – Helen Andelin and the Fascinating Womanhood Movement 

Makow – Men Must Champion Feminine Women (What is Feminine?)

Makow- It’s OK to be a Woman!     and  Feminism Can be Cured (if Diagnosed Early)

Fascinating Woman Website and Documentary 

Another review of Fascinating Womanhood

Two Great Books on Biological Gender Differences

First Comment from William:

In the professional setting I am immersed in – women want to land a financially successful husband so they can precisely do this. Have children, make home a priority, and have an interested father to their kids. They have careers – but if the husband is wealthy enough it becomes secondary to what they truly like to do – manage the home, social life, children, etc. 

Having a career, education, and something to do outside of the home is important for a married woman, I truly believe this. But women themselves, i’m finding, only want this as a secondary compartment to their primary desire – children and a family. 

But I believe the propaganda is only successful because men simply do not have financial means anymore to offer this. Thats the real problem. Every “career oriented” woman I know, and I know a lot, secretly ADORE the idea of being able to make home and family #1. You’ll always have outliers, but for the majority of women this holds.