Nature Doesn't Give Rain Checks to Women

In my youth during the 70′s college women did such a good job of showing no interest in marriage or motherhood that neither I, or they, suspected homes, ie husband and family, would ever matter to them. It wasn’t till I was over 40 that every woman my age I met had been those women 30 years ago. And every one of them were still single and expressed openly their regrets. Quite bitterly.

I understood then that the sex ‘revolution’ and feminism had conned them as effectively as ‘sex drugs and rock n’ roll’ had conned me.

I think I see now that the trick is, when you’re 21 male or female, a lifetime seems forever, so you can try on a ‘lifestyle’ and if you don’t like it later you can do something else. Women didn’t realize things look very different from 40. And 40 creeps up on people in their 20′s, before you know it — you’re there.

Another thing I realized, is because women lose the possibility of having children by 40 (if not sooner), they’re still in a relatively young mind set when they learn they’ve missed that possibility – and that’s forever. A man may begin feeling a fleeting moment of regret at never raised a family when he’s invited to a college buddy’s daughter or son’s college graduation, or wedding. It’s often not till such a happenstance that it occurs to a middle aged man the children he might have had would already be grown. But that’s a ‘guy’ thought that doesn’t have the same ‘finality’ that a woman realizing she’s infertile forever can have. As a man, I think childless men think of not having been a father the way they might occasionally regret a profession they wanted to be, but didn’t pursue till it was too late. It doesn’t seem to have the same impact that a woman feels realizing she’ll never be a mother.

And does have. Rather often. I know it does, I’ve heard it from too many women my age who’s photos from the 70′s tell me they could have had their pick of men. And they did! They picked ALL of them, one a month. Like shopping. These were the girls who had that bumper sticker, “So many men, too little time” back in ’77″. Well, time’s up.

So my advise to young people whether male or female is, don’t let this happen to YOU. Don’t be conned.