On the Nature of Man-Woman Relationships: What Is the Ideal?

From Ken Adachi, Editor

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April 10, 2016

On the Nature of Man-Woman Relationships: What is the Ideal? (April 10, 2016)

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This is a commentary on Henry Makow’s April 8 article titled “Men – Seek Helpmates, Not Soulmates” which is posted below:

Henry Makow is one of the most helpful thinkers and commentators of our time. I strongly concur with his astute and insightful views on the makeup of the NWO gang and their Marxist-cultural gimmicks to enslave and destroy traditional western society and its bedrock of Christian family values. I also admire his manifold articles exposing the deception, misdirection, and fraud involved in all expressions of organized Jewry’s number one weapon to destroy heterosexual harmony among the goyim ~ feminism. So called “feminism” has done so much to poison and dilute the very feminine attributes in women that make women so attractive and desirable to men as girlfriend, as wife, and then as mother of their children. I for one, bristled at the promotion of feminism from its very beginnings in the early 1970s. I could clearly see the train wreck that was coming down the tracks.

I too prefer the traditional roles played by men and women over the ‘emancipated’ devolvement that began with the sexual revolution of the 1960s. Males are enabled and nurtured into becoming a good provider and protector of family as a result of being raised by loving parents. As wife, a loving female continues to provide the home front encouragement and comfort males need to feel needed and honored as head of the family. With this, I agree.

I cannot, however, agree with most of Henry’s ten points of advice given below on the male/female dynamic; especially his utilitarian view of the man-woman relationship and the dismissal of the central role of love and romance in that relationship. Love is the central, dominant, and creative force of the universe. We exist because God loves us. God created woman and man to perfectly compliment each other and bring forth the fruits of His creation in this physical reality. We can only be happy and fulfilled in all our endeavors when we fulfill those desires with love in our hearts.

Romance
Romantic love IS love. There’s nothing bogus or idolatrous about it. It’s not a veneer for hormonal, biologic impulses alone. When we fall in love, we experience a gladdening of the heart because we have become entwined on the soul level with that person. I’m not talking about people who insincerely say “I love you” for convenience or to be polite. I’m talking about a man and a woman who are in love with each other and feel it to the core of their being. I do not like the casual use of the term ‘soul mates’ in movies or as a pickup line. It’s thrown around like confetti. It trivializes the importance of the soul connection between a man and a woman who are in love. But make no mistake about it ~ it is a soul connection which has ramifications that go far beyond the physical world.

I also don’t agree with the notion of a pecking order when it comes to your wife and God. Loving your wife with your whole heart and soul is loving God with the same level of devotion. We use the word “God” to identify the Creator, but God is not a being outside of us. God is within every single person. The Hindus understood this concept thousands of years ago. “The Kingdom of God is within” said Jesus. Realizing that God is within is the key to seeking God. Yogananda got it right. He called his devotional group the Self Realization Fellowship. Men and women manifest God’s Divine plan by being nurtured into decent adults who follow the Golden Rule. They have fun, fall in love, get married, raise children, and grow old together in a life filled with happiness and contentment. Doing work you like is wonderful, but the greatest happiness comes from living in a home with a loving wife. There would be no divorce, and its disastrous effect on children, if husband and wife kept the love lamp burning strong within their hearts, act in ways that support each other, and avoid doing things that hurt one another.

I love the great romance comedy movies made in the 1930s, 40s, 50s, and 60s before foul language became the new norm. A good movie inspires people and fills them with hope and joy. Romance movies from the Golden Age of cinema, show men and women behaving in a way that is more in tune with decency, rather than the unwatchable mediocrity and vulgar trash of recent decades. Someday, the avant-garde will be the making of clean, decent movies again.

I’m sorry, but romance and love makes the world go around. It always has; it always will. It’s the best item on the menu – Thank God.

Ken Adachi

Men – Seek Helpmates, Not Soulmates (Updated) by Henry Makow, Ph.D.
April 8, 2016

http://henrymakow.com/2016/04/men-seek-helpmates-not-soulmates.html

Thomas Hardy and T.S. Eliot married their secretaries.
Dostoyevsky married his translator. I married my webmaster.
It was love at first site.

“Love perfection but do not seek it in a flawed fellow human being, a woman. “
“And God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a help meet for him.”  Genesis 2:18

Update-  I could almost feel my friend, a feminized male, flinch when I said, ”The heterosexual dynamic is based on a man convincing a woman to do what he wants and her acquiescing.” I had committed heresy. These words are politically incorrect in our Cabalist societal cult. Forbidden. Yet ironically they make for successful relationships while feminism usually doesn’t.  

First Comment by Lola- The Man’s Side of the Help Mate Bargain:

Did I miss something in today’s article?
 
In return for a woman being a helpmate to man, bearing his children, and rearing them, attending to everyone’s spiritual, physical and emotional needs,  part of a real man’s goals should be to help make his woman’s dreams come true. Does she want a happy home with three kids and playroom? Does she want to stay home with the kids full- or part-time to help ensure the government is not completely indoctrinating them through public schools?  Does she want a nice dining room to host Thanksgiving? Does she want you to focus on building a secure life so she can tend to the needs of children in an every-increasingly crazy world? Men, that is what makes women feel loved–helping to build her dreams while she helps build yours.

Christopher writes:

Your «Seek Helpmates» hits the proverbial nail on the head. You are NOT alone in realizing these truths somewhat later, rather than early on.

I suffered horribly from «being a romantic», and chasing all the unattainable, yet seemingly perfect «Les Wilis» (spirits). One woman, to this day, regrets throwing out all my amazing, uber-romantic love poems (inspired by her); an action dictated by her confused state of mind, thanks to the bi-polar nature of over-the-top absurd romanticism directed towards newbie feminist hysteria.

Despite a plethora of perfectly good, kind hearted, helpful, and attractive women; I seemed driven to chase down and capture «the goddess.» Unfortunately, the majority of such «goddess» creatures were racked with psychological issues and conditions, from anorexia to kleptomania, and far beyond – often creating even dangerous relations. It became obvious that society was targeting such people, through indirect as well as direct means.

Talk about giving up one’s innate power?!?

It wasn’t just a somewhat faulty family dynamic that inspired this – it is was plain old programming, like the kind you find on TV. The average dating period, at that time in my life, never went over six months. Sadly, few – if any of these love interests ever remained even friends.

On any and every level, it was all an absurd waste, based on pulling out the dysfunctional threads of a problematic family life, followed by the enhanced narcissism and hedonism programmed into a young, open mind.

Even the clothes of the period (1970s and early 80s) tell the story. Young men were pushed towards decidedly feminized fashions, with blousy shirts, skirt-like, large bell-bottom pants, and platform shoes; while young women moved either from the demure towards sex vixen outfits (like super short hot pants), or took on masculinized (see: Annie Hall) garb. This was just before the «I hate you – come here-go away», blackened eyes, bitch-vixen look, of the late 80s and early 90s fashions for women. And the Wall Street shark/slime-ball look, in that same following period, for men.

Finally, after «growing up», as well as reassessing the true nature and meaning of manhood, I began to see that the «Babe-age Factor» is quite short-lived, and utility – in the end – actually DOES become the real romance. It took a long time, but, at long last, I can now appreciate and respect ALL aspects of true womanhood, including those that ARE attainable, like; loyalty, exclusivity, trust, honor, faith, patience, charm, and the simple pleasure of just «being» with an important member of that gender that is different from my own… Vive la difference!

Don’t believe it? Just ask my wife of seventeen years.