Souls, Spirits and Incarnation

I am a mother of four in my mid 30′s and I have been told that I have some psychic abilities, mainly psychometry, paranormal, and lately remote viewing. Things come to me in the form of pictures in my mind, feelings and impressions, and sometimes sounds. I typically get them when asked to focus on specific objects or events. I clear my mind, think of the question or object and this blog is an example of what I get. This blog is a way for me to organize all my thoughts. Q If (the Universal Consciousness) has a feel of a trap that doesn’t cause harm, but holds you back from reaching your potential I get that the longer you roam, your soul develops more and has a better understanding of universal laws and allows your subconscious to expand. When you jump back in right away you are robbing yourself from the experience of stretching your subconscious.  
So, our souls learn more by not going to the Light? How can we reach an enlightened state if we don’t reincarnate to learn life lessons?
A. I get that the more we “roam” in a spiritual state, the more we learn.  In order to incarnate we do have to cycle through the light.  The real key is to learn what you can in a spiritual state so when you are incarnated (choose to go through the light) you have more residual lessons in your subconscious.  The higher you evolve before incarnating, the quicker you are to tap into that knowledge once you do chose to incarnate.  

Q. You can do whatever and go almost wherever you want (if we chose not to go to the Light). You can travel the earth (and beyond). Gain insight without your conscious, rational mind giving judgement. I get that many people visit places of significance. You can see relatives, serve as a guide… Really the options are limitless. You make your place. 
Doesn’t that sound like paradise? Are the relatives we see in this realm, the relatives in our last life? Do we also meet our “soul pacts” here? If we do, and since we have lived many lives, won’t there be confusion in terms of relationships? Perhaps this meeting of “soul pacts” only happens after we go to the Light?
A.  You do go and see whatever you would like.  You also meet up with the energetic form of past loved ones (providing they haven’t already gone to the light).  Soul pacts also group here (I see it like magnetic attractions between balls of light), but there is no confusion- the rational mind and ranges of feelings create confusion here on earth.  In the spiritual world things (without the conscious mind interfering) are just understood- there is no language- things just “are.”

Q. Once you are in the light you start to forget who you were (not really the knowledge or experience, but the physical stuff).
If that is so then how do we recognize our soul mates if we forget who we were? 
A.  Soul mates are much more than a physical appearance.  The body is just a shell for something much grander (the spirit).  There is an attraction (“chemistry”) that draws the two of you together.  That “chemistry” is driven by their spirit (vibrations) and how their vibrations interact with yours.  

Then I hear that in the presence of some people, you will feel repelled.  They may make you feel ill, or like you don’t want to be around them.  It is the internal vibe that they exude that contradicts your vibration.  Some people you enjoy being around- they make you feel happy and good- it is because of their vibration.  A soul mate compliments your vibration so well that you cannot get enough of them.

Q. We normally do incarnate with the same pact of souls. They just are different to us in different lives. Who you feel is your soul mate in this life may be your brother or cousin in a future life. We do come together many times (not all, but many).  
Do we decide who will be who in the future life before we reincarnate? If we decided to be siblings, doesn’t that mean that the other pact of souls will have to wait longer to reincarnate into the same family? I somehow, don’t see the “souls pacts” with our partner because more often than not, they are complete stranger till we meet them. Correct me if I’m wrong. 
A.  I first get that if the soul pact decides to come in with the same family, some may have to wait.  I also get that time is relative, and even though we define a lifetime as several decades, in the universal perspective time is so infinite that waiting a decade of earth years is not defined as “too long or short.”  There really is no “waiting,” time just is.

Regarding the “soul pact” with our partner, we do make a pact with your true soul mate.  Free will can intervene, which may cause a missed opportunity, but your soul mate will appear to be a stranger until you talk to them.  I get most times when you connect with your soul mate, they feel like an extension of you (and feel familiar without being familiar prior to meeting).  

Q. I do see several planes, and souls can visit the various planes BUT they will reside with the one they are most similar too (regarding vibrations). Low vibrations (most generally) don’t “feel” well in a higher vibrational plane and vice versa. I hear that ”like attracts like.
Is that why the Christians believe in paradise as their soul will reside with those who have similar beliefs/faith?
A. Yes, they feel as though when they pass they will be united with other spirits who share similar beliefs and behave a certain way. 

Q. I get that some older souls advance to the ET level.
How? By reincarnation (like birth?) or just transformation to an ET appearance? 
A.  I see this happening in the process of reincarnation (exactly like a birth).  There is no “transformation” because a spirit is still a spirit, and the outer covering is just a shell (human, ET or otherwise).  

Q. I see it (human) as a humanoid looking ET that is incarnated in a place that looks similar to earth, but has a very different feel to it. This humanoid has an appearance similar to humans (skin texture, smooth hair, six fingers (?), six toes (?), they are empathic and intuitive (know what they are thinking and feeling without even talking). The main difference from humans is the color of their hair, skin and eyes- they look to be of all colors (red, pink, blue, purple). 
Where is this place similar to earth? In one of the other planets or another realm on earth? 
A.  When I tune into this, it “feels” like an alternate solar system that runs parallel to ours (it’s close).  I see it spiraling like a cork screw right beside us (as if it takes the shape of the other side of the double helix DNA strand).  Our solar system is one side, and this system takes the other- then I see it being attached to the sister sun, and it is one of the planets tied to it [referring to our sister sun].

Q. What intrigues me further..  What happens once the spirits cross over and absorbed into the “oneness? Do they reincarnate straight away or is there another spiritual realm after they crossed over the light tunnel, where they still have the free will to reincarnate or not? 
A.  Once you go into the light tunnel you being the process of incarnating- you lose your free will at that moment.  You have complete control (even though you may feel the influence to go to the Light), while you are a roaming spirit.  

Q. How do we know if we have a spiritual guide or not?
A.  Every person has several guides.  Some will stay with you your whole life, and others come and go to help you through certain lesson (like a specialist).  

Q. Is the low birth-rate trend now due to many souls not wanting to reincarnate? Or because of human decision, many souls cannot reincarnate?
A. Soul incarnate in many forms.  There is ET incarnations, animals, humans and beings on other planets.  If a soul wants to incarnate, there are many places it can go (or wait if it chooses).  

A. Is there a difference between soul and spirit?
Q  I see these things as the same thing and the term in interchangeable.