Gender of our Soul

I am a mother of four in my mid 30′s and I have been told that I have some psychic abilities, mainly psychometry, paranormal, and lately remote viewing. Things come to me in the form of pictures in my mind, feelings and impressions, and sometimes sounds. I typically get them when asked to focus on specific objects or events. I clear my mind, think of the question or object and this blog is an example of what I get. This blog is a way for me to organize all my thoughts. Q. I have a quick question. I know that every soul has a soul mate and for each pair there is a male soul and female soul. If each soul has spent many many incarnations as both male and female, how can you tell what gender your eternal soul is? I’ve tried meditating and guided meditations without a clear answer. My gut instinct says i am female but i just don’t know. Is there any other way to tell? Thank you!
A. I get your sex is a physical trait tied to your human body.  The soul itself is actually both.  I cannot see a defined female or male soul, but rather a soul that is encompassing of everything.  We can incarnate into our human body as a male or female, and experience that lifetime as that sex, but when we pass, we go back to being a soul (energy that is part of the Universal consciousness with memories of experience and growth).  For us to grow and expand through our experience, we must experience all things and be all things.  I get if you had a soul that was assigned to a gender, then when you incarnated to the opposite gender (as part of the necessary growing), it wouldn’t be able to connect properly.  

And that is all I have for this reading.  Thank you.  Love and light-