Facing Yourself: Recognizing The Life Lessons That Bring Out The Real You

 In coaching and development work you often hear talk of mirrors, and the fact that situations and experiences come to teach you a lesson and show you an aspect of yourself.

How do you recognize these lessons when you’re looking into the mirror of a situation?

See That Red Car? It’s Not Red

Look down at what you’re wearing and begin to describe it. I’m willing to bet you started by saying the color of the piece right?

So, for example you said I’m wearing a black shirt. Well you’re wrong – because technically the shirt is every color but black (or red or white or yellow or pink or purple or any other color you can think of).

It’s basic science… the interpretation of color happens because waves from the color spectrum are absorbed by the item being viewed. The colors you see are actually the waves of color that are bouncing off the item.

So the truest thing you can say of anything red, is that it’s not red.

When we view situations with our ego, a similar process takes place: we have capacity for the full range of emotions inside us, but we choose to only focus on one or two at a time.

So when we view a situation, we shoot the waves of our understanding of the range of human emotions at the situation in front of us. The emotions that are absorbed are the ones we ‘ignore.’

What we see or perceive of the situations are the emotional frequencies we’re sending out, that aren’t being absorbed by the situation in front of us and are bounced back to us.

Often this is simply because that emotion is happening inside us at such an enormous level that we send out massive pulses of that emotion – an emotional ‘charge’ around the situation.

As a result of this bombardment, the degree to which that situation is true of the characteristic you’re assigning to it will quickly become saturated, causing many waves of that emotion to be reflected back to you. This lands up making the ‘picture’ you’re seeing from your point of view, very, very clear indeed.

The immense amount of time that that emotion takes up inside you also makes you a master at identifying even the subtle nuances of it.

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