Being a Godly Wife: Honor

Original post by Sarah @ Renewed Upon a Dream, please visit her website for more great ideas!”

I recently discovered the most amazing blog that is focusing on a timely subject for me.   Jac at babEblessings has started a series about what it means to be a Godly wife.  How that looks in real life & how to get there.  Last month, she focused on faith, and this month, she is focusing on honor.

My husband & I have been married for about a year and a half.  We are currently halfway through his medical residency.  We just went through a residency match a year and a half ago, and we’ll be going through another one this year.  Translation: I have little to no control over any of the big decisions for our lives right now.  This is super stressful.  How do I often deal with stress?  Cleaning, overextending myself, and being a grump towards my wonderful hubby.

Thus, thinking about honoring my husband has been flashing on my radar recently.  So when I saw this series, I knew I wanted to think about it more clearly (in a way that I could write it down).  Jac asks in her post (go read it, really!) for us to come up with three little things that we can do as ways of honoring our husbands in our everyday life.  It actually didn’t take me long to come up with my three things.

The three things I can do to make my husband feel honored are:
Watching my words
Relying on him
Trusting his word

1) Watch my words – The ones I speak & the ones I think.  Finding other ways to express myself with love   Also making sure I check myself when I’m hanging with friends & make sure it doesn’t turn into a bad-mouthing-our-husbands-thon.  This actually is not a huge problem in my groups of friends, but I want to be conscious of it nevertheless.  Just making sure not to say anything about him that I wouldn’t say if he were standing there.  This past weekend I really tried to focus on “being nice” when we were moving.  I knew I was going to be stressed & I really wanted to try not to take it out on him.

2) Rely on him – Maybe it’s because my husband is a medical resident & thus not always around to do things, or because I tend to be more “handy” than him, or just because I’m neurotic, or I was single too long, but I almost never think to ask my husband for help.  I basically feel personally responsible for holding our lives together in every way.  This shouldn’t be the case.  I need to remember that I’m part of a team now & not a one-women-show.  That my husband can have responsibilities too & that I can rely on him to do his part.  I run around doing everything while feeling bitter that I’m the one doing everything yet not letting him do things for me.  Gah!  My idiocy reveled!  I need to count on him more.

3) Trust his word – I do trust him completely on the “big things” like that he acts & makes decisions for us out of love & wanting the best for us for the long term.  But for this I mean more of the every day kind of things.  Like when he says he’ll clean the kitchen or put the laundry away or something like that.  He’s trying to make things easier for me, but I tend to want things done like, yesterday, & if they aren’t done according to my arbitrary timeline I’m getting up & getting whatever it was done since he didn’t do it fast enough… then he is mad that I didn’t let him do what he already said he was going to do.  I need to trust that he’s going to do what he says he’s going to do & not impose my timelines on him doing them; just let him do it on his own timeline whenever possible.

I know these are all “me” problems even though in my head I can twist them to be “him” problems.  We all have different things we need to work on in order to honor our husbands because each of us & each of our husbands are different.  How my husband feels honored is likely going to be different from how your husband feels honored.  These three things are things that might not come naturally for me that I know would make my husband feel good & honored & loved, so that’s why I chose these.  Jac’s are different.  Except we share the words one  

What are three little things you could do every day to honor your husband?

**************************************