How to Help a Partner Dealing with Postpartum Depression

Postpartum depression can be devastating and confusing at first. Going through the rollercoaster of having the baby only to be left with a shell of the person you knew before can be distressing for any dad. But there are some things that you can do to help your partner get through postpartum depression. Here are some of the things you can do to get your partner back on their feet.

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Understand the Biology of PPD

First of all, you have to understand that postpartum depression is a real illness and not just “being moody”. There are some real psychological and biological reasons behind your partner’s condition and she can’t just “snap out of it”. Hormonal and immune system changes, and changes in blood pressure, the cardiovascular system and metabolism all contribute to PPD. All these processes can have a profound effect on your mood, brain function and overall perception of the world. So understand that this is not an act and a true medical issue.

Understand that Environment Can Have an Influence on Biology

However, while postpartum depression is mainly influenced by biology, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t things that can be done to improve the environment and alleviate the symptoms. For instance, the health of your relationship, the home’s general atmosphere, your workload and your lifestyle can all have an effect on the severity of her depression. If you can, try to reduce the stress around the house to a minimum. Try to explain to the kids what is happening to mommy so that they don’t think she doesn’t love them anymore. And don’t be afraid to go into detail as well.

In the most extreme cases, you might have to resort to antidepressants, but there are plenty of natural alternatives as well. For instance, you could opt for things such as meditation. Light exercise as well as good nutrition can also improve her condition. And of course, you should always keep a clear line of communication between the two of you and offer a helping hand when she’s in need.

Reduce Her Workload

One of the most effective cures for postpartum depression is rest. Lots of it. Try to help her as much as you can with parental duties. It is not rare for women dealing with postpartum depression to feel completely disconnected from their newborn child. Don’t take it as a sign of her being a bad mother. Instead, make sure that you carry your part of the load as much as you can. Don’t be afraid to step in if the baby cries or needs a change of diaper. She’ll eventually get back on her feet if you give her the proper environment and allow her to enjoy some alone time.

Conclusion

Postpartum depression can be difficult for moms, dads and the whole family. And helping loved ones with depression can be difficult when you’re dealing with depression yourself. But you have to remember that PPD is a serious disorder and takes lots of love, dedication and understanding. So, don’t give up. Instead, do everything that you can to give her the most conducive environment for recovery.