Lessons Learned from Working Minimally

Lessons Learned from a Year of Working Minimally

I’m a pretty strong, resilient person. But in the past few years I’ve lost a lot of loved ones, and I mean, a lot. Finally, it started getting to me.

Where Do Therapists Turn When They Suffer Loss?

My patience was wearing thin. Tolerance for some of the stuff aimed at me as a therapist (an expected occupational hazard, and for the most part, usually tolerable) was at an all-time low. Most importantly, my love for the work was dwindling. I didn’t have the same spring in my step anymore and needed to make a change. It just wasn’t clear what that would look like.

The loss is devastating. Losing so many beloved people, and one dear cat, in such a short period of time played havoc with my sense of empowerment in the world. Without really thinking about it, I acknowledged my spiritual malaise and decided to take some time away from my therapy practice. I opted to concentrate, instead, on something that always makes me feel better: my creativity.

I cut my patient-hours almost in half, and turned my attention to different types of things, like producing a new podcast series, blogging, doing public speaking and radio interviews; even working on my first novel.

It wasn’t that these activities weren’t challenging because they were. However, they didn’t drain me in the same way as my therapy practice. A few rather toxic individuals gave me a particularly hard time. This happened just as experienced the most painful loss of my life. It soured me, somewhat, on my profession.

Being creative was energizing and healing, and although financially not the greatest idea, taking the year off from my practice was the best thing I could have done for myself.

Very Valuable Lessons in Working Minimally

Lately, as I’ve increased my therapy hours, I’ve been working with three people who are currently experiencing workplace burn-out. It’s been fascinating, exploring with them how they got to this place of emotional exhaustion and crisis.

There were some factors they all had in common, which had contributed to the crisis they’re now in:

None of them had voluntarily taken time off for themselves; not until they were in acute crisis and then had to go on sick leave. Every one of them tried to change how they approached their job, in a conscientious yet vain attempt to continue working.

All of them were in environments in which they felt helpless and out of control because they weren’t adequately supported. They were experiencing a relatively high degree of abuse. No wonder they got burnt out.

I like to think that as a therapist, I don’t just talk the talk but also I walk the walk. Well, looking back at the past year, I think I now have a nice example of this. I did voluntarily take time away from my practice before I became emotionally exhausted. Instead of being conscientious to a fault, I focused my attention on doing different activities. These made me feel happy and empowered, as opposed to aggravated and helpless.

There are a few things about my work as a therapist that I can’t talk about. Suffice to say that often when things are most challenging for me, the job doesn’t offer the support that I need. Taking time off from work and concentrating on activities that were meaningful and engaging gave me my strength and motivation back. It helped me to feel like my best self again.

The Good and Bad about Working Minimally

Yes, there are a lot of accumulated bills to pay, but on the other hand, I’m in great shape, emotionally and physically. (I also spent a lot of time being physically active, during my hiatus from work.) I’ve learned some new tips for balancing all the things that I like to do. As a result, I’m enjoying my practice in a way that I hadn’t been, previously.

Taking time away from work has renewed my love for the job and has made me a better therapist, as a result.

All the creative work I’ve been doing has infused my groups and workshops with new energy. Many of my patients have been telling me they are getting a lot more out of participating in these activities, lately. Not a bad result from taking a bit of time off to do something other than psychotherapy.

When I was in medical school in Newfoundland, they had a lot of quaint expressions. For example, “If you don’t like the weather, wait five minutes,” or “Change is as good as a rest.” I don’t know about the weather, especially here in Toronto. I have come to see that my year of change was definitely as good as a rest–perhaps even better.

About the Author

Dr. Marcia Sirota is a Toronto-based board certified psychiatrist with a specialty in the treatment of trauma and addiction. Her book, “Women Decoded,” helps men understand what women want and how to choose the right woman. “Back on the Market,” helps women successfully return to dating. Her latest podcast on SoundCloud with writer, David Hopkins, covers the value of learning and the importance of empathy. Sign up for her free monthly wellness newsletter: http://marciasirotamd.com