What are friends?

We have friends in our soul group. What makes them different from say a teacher, or a stranger that only effects your life path for a minute or a day?

Everyone in our soul group is there for learning and teaching. We all learn and teach from each other. Sometimes this is a fun event, sometimes it isn’t, but it is always valuable. It is always worth it as it is always meant to be.

People have misguided thoughts that your friends should always be up your butt, in your face, know your thoughts and never say a word to upset you. That isn’t a friend, that is a Golden Retriever. They are good to have too, if you want, but they aren’t part of our soul group. Animals have their own eneretic job to do and it rarely involves learning a lesson.

Friends are people you can disagree with and still have coffee, a drink, or a meal with them at the end of the day. Friends are people who have different interests, go places both with and without you. They make you laugh, yes, but they can also make you cry and still be your friend. The former should greatly outnumber the latter however, unless they are tears of joy.

Friends are those people that should be able to say something to you, flat out and honest, and you won’t get offended. Friends are people you know well enough, that you know why they feel that way, you respect them for it, and may even learn something (hint hint) from it.

Friends are people you can laugh with, cry with, and tell all about it. No matter what the subject.
They are the people you can count on when things go sideways, and they are the ones who are flat out honest with you. They know you well enough to know when something is up, or when you need a hug.They have different interests, viewpoints, passions, and styles. They aren’t afraid to openly discuss any of it with you.

They never quit on you. Never give up on you, even when you give up on you.

You don’t have to talk to them every day. You don’t have to see them every day, yet the bond doesn’t get any weaker from that. You are totally open with them though. Even though they don’t see you, they know when something big happens in your life, or when you are in a crises. They know your being better than you do.

That is a friend.

A friend isn’t a number on a Facebook tally. They aren’t people who you never met or talked to in your life. They aren’t someone who constantly agrees with you to keep from upsetting you. They aren’t people who walk away and never look back, or are abusive to you. They aren’t demanding of you or tell you what to do, say or think. They aren’t people who try to monopolize your time. They don’t play mind games with you, or try to make you feel badly about being you.

There are so many crazy, dangerous, mindless people in the world today.
Surround yourself with quality, with real friends, and let them know you love them!
To all my friends (and you know who you are), you are the BEST!

Tomorrow is Friday (my weekly break), and then the Christmas holiday. I will not be writing until after Christmas on the 28th, and I am doing no “in person” readings until January 3, 2013 (yes we will still be here). Enjoy the season no matter how you celebrate it! Be safe, happy and healthy!!

Peshaui Wequashimese

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