Fences & Bridges: Love in Dystopia

It’s tough out there. Relationships between men and women in the modern US are more strained than they’ve ever been, and men and women alike are more miserable than ever.

The relatively healthy societal courtship norms that were once in effect in the West disintegrated long before most of us were born. Many of us are several generations removed from any semblance of a healthy marriage in our family. We have experienced our parents’ divorce(s) and a revolving-door procession of their significant others coming and going throughout our lives. Many of us have had to muddle through becoming adult men or women without the regular presence of our same-sex parent.

We have grown up inundated with images of degeneracy and promiscuity that have been normalized by the (((entertainment))) industry, and endured educational (((propaganda))) intended to undermine the expectations of roles and sexuality for men and women.

As a result of all these influences and experiences, men and women view one another with hostility and suspicion, rather than admiration and affection.

Basically, with regards to romantic relationships in modern United States, it’s as if a tornado has torn through the place. The survivors are wandering around shell-shocked and disoriented, looking at the wreckage with no idea how to begin cleaning it up.

We’ve floundered around the mating game, sometimes with abysmal results. We’ve indulged in the temptations of degeneracy and suffered the consequences. We’ve tried to find true love, only to find ourselves as, alternately, the perpetrators and victims of disappointments and betrayals in our relationships. We’ve become bitter and cynical. We’re carrying emotional baggage into every new encounter with a potential romantic partner. Some of us have decided to give up entirely.

Over time, many of us have come to understand that the increase in degeneracy and breakdown of traditional norms are the root cause of all this damage and its resultant misery.

There is certainly no easy way to bridge the painful divide between men and women that exists today. I think that one thing that can help is realizing societal decay is something that *happened* to us all, and is not completely due to the failures of the people of one gender or the other. This enmity has been sown by design.

I think that those of us who want to restore traditionalism need to approach the opposite sex with a large degree of patience and understanding.

Understand that many women have absorbed the lie that that the traditional roles of wife and mother are degrading and oppressive, rather than a critical pillar of a flourishing civilization. I think it may be helpful to encourage women to understand that they will be cherished, appreciated, and probably much happier fulfilling these vital roles. (It’s certainly a more persuasive approach than “know your place, woman!” which I’m seeing quite a bit of lately. Just saying.)

Understand that men have been constantly and mercilessly blamed not only for their real faults, but a bevy of imagined ones, as well as for their successes. For women, I think simply showing a little bit of respect and sincere appreciation to our blame-weary men can go a long way towards heartening and motivating them.

I’d like to offer a white pill, if I may. The drive to mate and procreate is our strongest natural urge. Despite the pathologies that exist at a societal level, on a primal level, we all want the same thing, and nature is on our side.

We’re all in this together. Don’t give up. We can do it, fam.