4 Tips for a Fantastic First Impression Meeting Women Online

Let’s face it. Making a great impression on the first date is hard enough – but online? How can you get your charm, humor, and your uniquely awesome features across in a few lines of text? Plenty of options are at a woman’s touch-screen fingertips, and she may move on if you don’t catch her eye right off the bat.

How can you meet women online and sweep them off their feet in one message? Here are 4 tips to get you started.

1. Pull Something Specific from Their Profile

Who likes generic messages? Really, who? We banish them to our spam folders or delete them immediately – which isn’t exactly romantic, and sets you up as uninterested, uninteresting, not a gentleman and a little insulting. Instead, be sure to look at a women’s profile carefully and pick out something that makes her stand off the page. Mention this in your message; it shows you paid attention, it creates a sense of familiarity which will break the ice, and it gives you something to talk about. The less generic it is, the better – so don’t say you like her dog; say her closing line was so clever that you had to laugh.

2. Keep It Short – but Punchy

Proper message length is everything. A first impression has to be an excellent balance of thoughtful, intriguing, and interested, but without wasting their time, coming across as over-eager, or being too long-winded. When you set out to writing the perfect message, stick to the rule of three paragraphs. This gives you plenty of time to make a unique and charming introduction, but doesn’t make you appear too interested. It’s also easy to reply to, so the woman doesn’t feel obligated to reply with a time-consuming response. 

3. Get Them Talking About Themselves

By encouraging a woman to talk about herself, you’re making her feel valuable and intriguing. More importantly, you’re showing you honestly find her interesting. Be sure to ask direct question towards the end of your message, giving her a reason to write back rather than pass you by. Even if she’s not immediately interested in you, she’ll feel compelling to answer back for the fun of explaining something about herself, and this gives you an opening for a second, third, and fourth impression. At best, she’ll be flattered and excited to get to chatting with you.

4. Mention What You Have in Common – the More Unusual, the Better

No doubt she’s getting plenty of these “we are so perfect for each other!” messages; don’t be that guy. Having something in common is paramount, but make yourself stand out from the crowd by selecting a shared interest few others would. Does she have an odd hobby? Is there a strange habit of hers that few really “get?” Does she have a weird sense of humor? Pinpoint what connects you in a way that will encourage her to stop and think, “Wow, I won’t find someone like this every day.”

You have an advantage when you meet women online; time to calmly and cleverly form your first impression. Don’t let this opportunity go to waste. By following these tips, you can show your most charming self, getting her attention immediately.