Satisfying Our Emotional Needs Without Being Codependent
April 26th, 2017
By Lissa Rankin
Guest writer for Wake Up World
A deep cultural blind spot has recently come into my awareness, and it’s the kind of blind spot that, once you see it, you can’t unsee it. When I was in Bali, I spoke to a Hindu high priest, who is also an indigenous Balinese shaman — a rare combination — and he said that during the Kali Yuga, many blind spots will be revealed, and it is our invitation to just let ourselves see what has been in the shadow, for only then can it be illuminated with healing light. So let us shine light on this pattern and explore it together with curiosity.
This pattern has to do with our relationship to needs. As humans, we have needs. It’s a simple fact. If we don’t get our needs met, we suffer and/or die. We need healthy food, clean water, shelter, physical and emotional safety, emotional intimacy, and a feeling of belonging to a tribe of people who love us. We need the opportunity to do work that matters — without having to sell our souls for a paycheck — so we can give our gifts to the world and have them received. We need to be loved but we also need a place for our love to land. We need beauty and nature and the opportunity to express ourselves creatively. We need sex and good health and a deep connection to our true self.
As Abraham Maslow outlines in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, it can be tough to focus on getting deeper needs met when we’re scrambling for survival, as the Syrian people are right now. Maslow asserts that we have to get basic physiological needs and safety needs met before we can begin to meet our needs for love and belonging, esteem, and self-realization. While his model has been criticized as being specific to more narcissistic “me-centered,” self-improvement focused cultures like the United States, and while I sense that such critique is valid, the gist of it is that to be human is to be needy — and the sooner we recognize this, the healthier we can become emotionally, physically, spiritually, and societally.
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You’ve be programmed very well. Ever think you are in charge of what you think you need. What if you decide not to be needy and just work on what you can do, enjoy or experience by giving. Try not to trap yourself into another vicious circle and wait upon others to meet your needs. I can promise you they will always fail your expectations. However, if you meet the needs of a situation, person or event, based upon your own level of ability, a whole new world will open up to you. Enjoy the journey if you decide to embark on it.