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“Possessiveness” is Part of Marriage

Monday, December 28, 2015 7:27
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Women express love in terms of 
surrender, i.e. trust. She empowers 
her husband by believing in him.  

(Revised from Dec. 2009)

by Henry Makow Ph.D.

My wife recently asked me why I loved her. Instead of enumerating her good qualities, I answered simply and honestly: “Because you belong to me. “

At the risk of being politically incorrect, what many men seek in marriage is not great beauty, brains or sex, but the simple feeling of “possessing” a woman. In other words, what they seek is a degree of ownership or power.

And many women have the complementary craving, to totally “belong” to their husband.

This is the key to intimacy, how two people become one. When a man wins a woman’s love, she entrusts herself to him. And of course, he aspires to be worthy of this responsibility. 

Men want power. Women want love. Heterosexual marriage is an exchange of the two. Sex is the symbol of this exclusive bond.

Thus, a woman empowers her husband. Men and women were designed to complement each other, not to compete or fight. Most marriages break up due to a power struggle.

The need for “possessiveness” is quite practical. A man needs to “own the womb” to ensure his wife conceives his child and not another man’s. Women want to rear an offspring that expresses their love for a particular man.

Marriage is based on the exchange of feminine worldly power for masculine power expressed as love. Of course, women retain other forms of power, i.e. aesthetic, moral, emotional, intellectual etc.


The equation is total acquiescence to her husband in exchange for total love. When the issue of worldly power is settled, there is nothing preventing a husband’s love from expanding to encompass his wife. She becomes part of his ego, his sense of self.

Women express love in terms of surrender, i.e. trust. She empowers her husband by believing in him.  She inspires him to sacrifice for her and their children.


In “The Power of Sexual Surrender” psychiatrist Marie Robinson writes that femininity is based on “an essential female altruism” i.e. putting husband and children first.  Real women do not seek power. They seek love. They are cherished because they give love; they sacrifice themselves to husband and children.  


We live in a toxic environment for marriage. The Illuminati (Masonic) central bankers who control modern politics, education and kulture, continue to sabotage this exchange by constantly attacking woman’s trust in men. 

Men are irresponsible “abusers.” Marriage is exploitative and oppressive. Women must be  “independent.” How can a person belong to another? Women must be “strong and independent.” 


By haranguing women to seek power instead of love, they are fitting them with a psychological penis (penis=power) thereby neutering and creating gender dysfunction. By promoting homosexuality and promiscuity, they are making it much more difficult to form an exclusive lifelong bond, and stable foundation for family. 

Plain and simple, our “feminist” political leaders, pundits and educators are dupes and opportunists at best, impostors or traitors at worst. No honest government allows its men and women to be turned against each other.

We have a de facto Communist society. Feminism is nothing but Marxism applied to gender. Communism is Satanism. The goal is to spread sickness and dysfunction as a way to control. “We corrupt in order to control,” Giuseppe Mazzini said. 

Similarly, feminism has conditioned men to extend their adolescence and seek sex instead of marriage. It has emasculated men so that often they can neither demand nor command a woman’s trust. 

Young men and women now equate love with sexual attraction which inevitably is transitory and fickle. As I said, love is based on sacrifice. We love people who sacrifice for us. That’s why when a woman self effaces, sacrifices her will to her husband’s, she awakens an outpouring of love in his soul. Their identities and self interest are fused.

Love is also based on so many qualities that have nothing to do with sex appeal. I also love my wife because she is smart and capable. She’s not perfect but neither am I.


You don’t win a woman’s trust by attempting to dominate or suffocate her. You want her to want to belong to you.

You respect her individuality. For example, you don’t try to impose your ideas on her. Naturally you will choose someone who has an affinity with you. But you’re not looking for a clone. You should value her perspective and appreciate the differences. People are individuals and they don’t change a lot.

I get letters from men who complain that their women can’t buy into the “Conspiracy.” So what? Do you really want the madness mirrored back to you? If what we’re saying is true, it will become apparent to everyone eventually. People in possession of the truth do not have to proselytize.

As for sex, I can’t imagine a man ever insisting on sex when his wife is not in the mood. There’s no faster way to turn a woman off. Sex should never be an issue. 

On the other hand, a man won’t let his wife engage in activities that endanger her or their marriage.


When a man loves a woman, he wants her to be happy. He wants her to want him.
If you are single, narrow the search to women who want you.

Seek feminine receptivity: i.e. the ability to sacrifice, trust, belong.


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