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Male Performance Anxiety

Thursday, January 5, 2017 18:55
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(Before It's News)

erectile.jpg(“What’s in your pants?”)


In the 11 years since this article was written, my ideas have changed somewhat. 
(I will include my latest comments in the text in bold.)  I still believe that sex is an
act of possession which should only take place within the bounds of love. But,
I think I suffered from a cultural underestimation of the importance of sex to women.
Women need sexual satisfaction as much or more than men. Furthermore, a man’s ability to 
satisfy (“possess”) a woman is probably an important factor in her sense of “belonging” to him.
In general, I underestimated the amount that a good sex life can strengthen a marriage. 



(from Oct 22, 2005)
By Henry Makow, Ph.D.


Many perfectly healthy men apparently are using “performance enhancing” drugs, supposedly intended just for erectile dysfunction.

Reports include, “It’s like having a jackhammer between your legs” and “You can swing the bat all night long.”

To continue the baseball metaphor, I ask: Is this cheating?

Is it like using steroids to hit a home run?

Should these men be treated like heroes or impostors? Do women feel they have been with a real man or a particularly lifelike dildo?

(Do they care?)

These drugs completely automate an act that too often already is impersonal and mechanical. Is this really necessary? (Not necessarily.)

A young man of my acquaintance described how Viagra removed his performance anxieties.

I don’t think men should feel obligated to perform. It’s not the measure of a man. What a quaint vestige from our primate days! We become a man by serving a higher ideal, not because we can keep an erection. (Yes, but, if a man loves a woman, he wants to satisfy her.)

An erection is a measure of arousal, like the needle on a gauge. Ninety degrees suggests acute interest; 270 degrees suggests the chemistry is wrong. The woman or the relationship are equally to blame. 

In my experience, a woman’s response is a major factor. Love, mirrored as beauty on a woman’s face, is the biggest turn-on.

If the gauge reads 270, we need to fix the problem and not mess with our body’s natural feedback. (After decades of marriage, this may not be a bad thing. Marijuana or wine are a good as aphrodisiacs as Viagra.)

Let’s use the analogy of a car. If the oil indicator says empty, do you glue it at Full? Do we want to risk damaging the vehicle?

We live in an age where we are lied to continually. Do we want to lie to ourselves? (Sexual attraction is not a good gauge of love.)


A READER REPORTS


A reader “Bud” wrote that he took Viagra right after his second divorce. “I found much to my delight that women were easy. Real easy!

What wasn’t easy was that my heart, soul and body were not as easy as most of the women I met. BUT being a “Man” I thought that I “Needed a woman” and further that I “Needed” to please them.

Well the Viagra worked to fix a part of me that was telling me by not
working that I didn’t “Need” sex.

Here was the bizarre part, with the Viagra, Yes I had a glowing erection, yes I had her all “going” as well, but after even a minute or two of Sex, I WAS BORED.

I mean I was bored, and distracted and found the whole situation meaningless.

So, to counter my distraction I used of course, booze and “perversion”.
I tried to keep my interest in seeing what “I could get her to do”.
The answer was “everything” as modern American women are prone to do. But what didn’t change was the boredom.

I’d rather wanted to listen to music. I’d rather think about how I missed my children. I’d rather take a walk.

And ALL while having this “great “Viagra sex! But it was not great.
It actually made me sad!

So actually Viagra was a great wake-up for me, as it helped me become more aware of my body and my needs. Sex just wasn’t one of those needs.” (Bud’s problem is, he was having sex with strangers.) 


SEX IS OVERRATED


We live in a culture that regards sex as a mystical experience, necessary for our fulfillment. In the movies, the sex act is treated like a holy sacrament.

Why is this? Modern Western culture is Masonic in character. Freemasonry originated as a pagan sex cult. The “G’ in the emblem stands for Generation (as well as Gnosis.) It engages in phallus worship. That’s what the Obelisk is all about. Think about this next time you see the Washington Monument.

We are brainwashed to think that sex has some inherent value, that it is necessary for our identity, health etc. Are we secretly being initiated into depraved occult sex practices?

Without love, sex is hardly better than masturbating. And masturbating is just another excretory function.

Sex in our oc-culture replaces love and family. The ultimate goal is to dissolve the family and create a society of anonymous mutual masturbators, who cannot form permanent bonds.

It’s a long time since I read Aldous Huxley’s “Brave New World” but these drugs remind me of SOMA, a drug used to distract the masses from their slavery. (True, if there is no foundation in love.)


BIOLOGY AS DESTINY


To divorce sex from love and relationship is unnatural and inhuman. For most of us, our natural development requires marriage and family. This applies to both sexes.

The reproductive act determines a woman’s destiny. If she offers herself to all and sundry, her husband will be another in a long line of casual lovers. She will not be able to create a marriage capable of supporting healthy children.

Similarly, men have been brainwashed to see women as sexual receptacles. “I’d hit that,” young men are fond of saying. Or “Would you do Britney Spears?”

No wonder men and women are confused. So many people are “do” able, especially with Viagra.

Love humanizes sex. With love, sex assumes its real significance as the sacred ritual of human reproduction. By creating Life, we imitate God.

The man’s semen represents his spirit, his genetic code, and his tie with eternity. Would he entrust this treasure with just anyone?

By receiving his seed, a woman is embracing and nurturing a man’s spirit. She is surrendering a part of herself and becoming a part of him. This unity is symbolized by their children, which represent their organic growth.

Behind the scenes, illuminati social engineers are working to destroy our awareness of this necessary natural process.

If we have this awareness, we seek an appropriate partner and satisfy our spiritual and sexual needs at the same time.

———————


Related, my “Managing the Male Sex Drive”

and “Reclaiming Male Power in the Viagra Age”



Source: https://www.henrymakow.com/001200.html

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