Intruding on the perfect lives of others

So I’m sifting through the dating profiles on Match.com and I’m starting to notice a pattern. Namely that an awful lot of women seem to be living totally awesome lives filled with sugary awesomeness where the awesome sauce just spills all over the awesomeness that is their awesome lives.

Take this example:

I have a great life, great friends, a great job, and an amazing family. I love adventures and traveling to exotic/different places and there is nothing i won’t try. Bungi jumping, skydiving, camping… i can do it all! I have a great life and i am looking for someone who can complement it!

Um, thanks?

Are they even aware of how intimidating this sounds? The perception that you’re living such a perfect life that’s so utterly perfect that just by virtue of me entering this life it would no longer be perfect?

Does this really exemplify the kind of girl I should be chasing after? One who apparently never suffered a day in her life?

I really find it disconcerting to sift through so many profiles that tend to read like this. I’m not suggesting that women should be emo creatures of agony and despair, but this eternally sunny disposition is just as equally off-putting, and it makes me self conscious in the sense that my own life isn’t going to measure up to the uptown world they live in.

I guess what I’d like to see is a woman who writes about how she endured adversity and affliction, BUT found a way to persevere through it. The fact that she experienced hardship in her life, AND that she overcame it as well would tell me something positive about her character, just in the way that overcoming the loss of my home to eventually become debt free would tell people something positive about me (I hope.)

I also don’t like this idea that I would merely complement someone’s life either. Again, not that I should BE someone’s whole life, which itself would be a recipe for disaster, but could I be a little bit more than someone’s part time boy-toy that they play with for a little while, until they quickly get bored and toss me back into the closet, never to be remembered again?

Or is that what I’m supposed to think that’s what passes for a HEALTHY relationship these days?

Maybe I’m an uber-romantic, but I’d like to think that if I meet… THE ONE, she won’t be someone whose life I would merely complement, but someone I would eventually be able to bond with on a deeply physical and spiritual level.

But going through these profiles, I just don’t see women who share that sentiment. They’d rather go bungee jumping than experience the spiritual enlightenment that comes with emotionally bonding with someone they are truly and, dare I say, hopelessly, in love with.

What a sucky world I live in.

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