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Enlightened Nurse Shares The Top Five Death Bed Regrets

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(N.Morgan) Bronnie Ware was a palliative care specialist for many years and learned a lot about human nature during her career. For those who are unfamiliar with that field, these are the remarkable people who specialize in treating and maintaining individuals with severe diagnoses. Many of their patients pass away in their care. As Ms. Ware would see them for up to 12 weeks before they passed, moments that were bound to be shared. Ms. Ware shared the most often spoken regrets.

She summarizes the sum of experience with,  “People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.” 

Here are some highlights from Ware’s website.

‘I Wish I’d Had the Courage To Live A Life True to Myself, Not The Life Others Expected Of Me’ 

This was the most frequently and readily realized regret. People faced with death are well known for seeing through the densest bull. Many realized how many dreams they missed and left in the sun.

Ware noted that, ‘Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.’

Don’t disrespect yourself or intentionally deprive yourself of the love you deserve. If you are the kind of person to let fear hold you back, you are the kind of person who will have a hard time forgiving yourself for the choices you’ve made. 

‘I Wish I Didn’t Work So Hard’ 

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.” 

Though there are those who won’t believe this, simply put there is more to life than money. Streamline your life to include people and events that matter to you. Are you going to remember and be proud of your toaster or the summer evenings you spent with your friends and family?

Jobs always bind us down by inflating a sense of pride. Look how many tables you can wait on! Look at all the dirt you shovel! Again is this something you’ll remember fondly? or for that matter, will those who love you remember this about you? We need money to play society’s twisted game of resources, but keep it a game and don’t let it run your life. 

‘I Wish I Had The Courage To Express My Feelings’ 

Ware points out,  “Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.” 

We all try and compromise with the people around us. There is a difference between compromise and surrender. One’s happiness does not have to come at the cost of another’s joy. Any person we would want to share our lives with would never even ask this of you. If we knew that our friends were paying a personal cost for us to be happy that would upset most of us greatly. So communicate honestly with the people in your life so we can maximize happiness and personal growth. Stop paying for what should be free! 

‘I Wish I Had Stayed In Touch With My Friends’ 

Ware’s summary of her patients feelings brought a tear to my eye, 

“Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.” 

This understanding may be the saddest of all. For people to die thinking that no one thinks of them or remembers them makes me feel pained inside. Treat your friends well is the moral of this story. Don’t ever hesitate to tell someone you love them. They will appreciate this more than they may ever say. 

How hard is it to keep in touch with friends in this day in age. Even if it’s a little blurb or hello, send it. That message carries powerful intentions that will stay with the recipient. You really never know how long you have on this Earth, so make sure those you love know you love them.

‘I Wish That I had Let Myself Be Happier’ 

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives,” Ware commented. “Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.” 

I view happiness as the goal that as long as your trying, you can’t loose. There is no ‘ultimate’ happiness to chase after, only the feeling we can share with those we love. We get caught up in the idea of the ‘perfect world’. When those impossible parameters can not be met we settle for something that is a far cry from what we deserve. Keep trying. 

Keep fighting. Most importantly keep loving.
 
 
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    • chefjim

      I think that number one on the list for many people will be: “I wish I would have believed in Jesus Christ to save me”, at which point, (if they are still conscious) they WILL ask Jesus Christ to save them (if they are wise). Sadly, according to the bible, most will reject the teaching of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and believe some other gospel e.g. the new age movement, atheism, neo-Darwinism or some false religion of works like LDS or Jehovah Witnesses or Roman Catholicism and will be hoping that their involvement with those futile efforts of man will save them. The bible clearly states: “I am the Way the Truth and the Life, no man cometh unto the Father but by me”. (the words of Jesus Christ written in John 14:6)

    • 2QIK4U

      Top 5 death regrets? So even dying there’s a competition now :shock:

    • aine

      The Roman Catholic Church is Jesus’s own church! As someone who nursed in the UK for 19 years, I can assure you that many dying people do find great comfort in their Faith in Our Lord; Catholic patients will be administered the Sacrament of the Dying and please don’t insult it. My parents, Lord Have Mercy on them , have both received this Sacrament before dying and I like to believe that they are saved, so please show some sensitivity! Protestant patients will be seen by either the C.of E. hospital chaplin or their own ministers. More people rely on their Faith in Jesus and even renew lapsed Faith when suffering terminal illness than you may have thought. As Christians, it is our duty to pray for the sick and dying anyway!

    • Pink Slime

      Hello Angle#3(prelim),

      Charlie here. My you are full of sentiment today. I for one don’t really believe those thoughts. Did they really desire that??

      Or are they just saying, “I wish I didn’t have to die”??

      Signed,

      Charlie (who on his deathbed will probably say, I wish I had a doughnut!) :lol:

    • The Thinning Veil Report

      stand up against evil.
      stand up for those who have no voice.

    • Room With a View

      If you don’t want Yeshua now, you will not want him then. You do understand pre destination don’t you? Yeshua only prayed for those who are written in the Lamb’s book of Life.

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