The Answer Is No

There is a saying if you really want to know a person tell
the person NO.  Some times when we decide
to help people we can actually harm them. 
It is possible to help people to the point that it does more harm than
good.  A person becomes dependent on us
to help or bail them out of their situation they stop trying to help themselves.  They learn to seek help more than to figure
out the situation.  They start taking for
granted the YES’s and expect that every time they call out for help a person is
suppose to say okay.  Unfortunately, they
do not see anything wrong with their actions because no one has ever told them
NO.  No one has held them accountable for
their problems. 

It becomes draining to the person who always says yes.  The person aka borrower gives you their story
and you feel obligated to help.  You get
sucked into their problem and since they are always playing the victim, you
want to be the hero.  You want to save
them one more time.  It’s a cycle that
will never stop until you decide to say NO. 

The Truth is… it’s a thin line between being helpful and
being a crutch for people.  When we start
feeling more obligated then being helpful it is a problem.  When a person is always having problems and
seeking you as a resolution that makes the situation a problem. 

Yes, we should help, but make sure your help is not a crutch
for them.  It is okay to say NO at times.  We need to use wisdom at times when helping
someone and make sure we are not their resolution. They should respect your NO
and if they do not that is their problem. 

It’s an old saying you can help someone a million times and
they will only remember the one time you decide not to help.  Some people you are never going to
please.  They are only going to think
about the one time.  Unfortunately, you
cannot change their mind, so you have to find peace for yourself.  It’s okay to say No and it’s okay to stick
with your No.