Why is spanking a child wrong? Let me tell you why it isn't...

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Am I the only one who would have handed this woman her teeth?  If children are “everyone’s business”…then I’d like to know when I can expect her support payments?  This…this is what’s wrong with our society.  The people attempting to discipline their children have to deal with morons like this.  If you birth’em and you pay for’em…then you are their parent and it is you and you alone who gets to decide on disciplinary tactics.  Nobody is saying brutalize your children.  But not being able to apply a simple butt whopping is just going overboard.

I got spanked, my father was spanked, his father was spanked…and so on.  You know what?  Bad children are a product of modern times.  A century ago, if kids lived to adulthood, they got jobs, had families and lived their lives as respectable people.  Now days, we have those who won’t get jobs…commit crimes daily as if it’s some sort of acceptable right they have…and those who spend all day ranting like this woman does and protesting about crap that doesn’t even affect them personally.

I’m right with the woman in the store from this article.  MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.  Sometimes kids are brats and they need a good a** whooping.  You can roll your eyes or not.  I got mine whooped as a kid…and as an adult, I know I had most of those coming to me.  Truthfully, I needed a few more for the things I did my parents didn’t catch or know about.   If somebody is punching their kid in the face, okay…call 911 or do something.  But if it’s mom paddling tantrum brat in a toy store…try applauding.  That kid probably won’t grow up to be a jerk and a self-righteous, self-entitled  ”gimme-monster.”

Use common sense.  Is it a butt spanking…or is it child abuse.  We all know the difference.  And I’m willing to bet you one of two things about this woman writing this article.  One, her kids are the most heinous, vile little freaks on the planet…or two, she’s got them hopped up on mind altering ADHD meds so much that they are zombies.  

I was a cop for many years…and I used to hate when moms or dads would turn white when they saw me while their kids were misbehaving.  I usually would smile and intentionally look away.  I knew the difference between abuse and discipline.  It doesn’t take a rocket scientist.  I got whooped in many-a-store when I was a kid in the seventies.  My momma didn’t give a damn who saw.  I grew up to join the military and serve as a police officer and have never been in trouble with the law a day in my life.  I’ve only had a handful of tickets…and yes I’m married with kids.  Oh, I should mention the two oldest are both straight-A honor students and are loved by their teachers and any adult who deals with them.  And you know what else?  I can’t tell you the last time one needed a spanking.  Probably because they respect and fear the spanking.  And now they are older and in school and it’s just not needed anymore.

If you’re interested, follow the link the author posts in reference to support her claims that physical discipline is only harmful.  If you do, you’ll find the following admission by the study’s authors:

“The studies do not discriminate well between non-abusive and overly severe types of corporal punishment,” Larzelere says. “You get worse outcomes from corporal punishment than from alternative disciplinary techniques only when it is used more severely or as the primary discipline tactic.”

Let me put that in reasonable terms for you.  The idiots conducted their study without defining what is physical discipline and abusive child beating.  They lump them together so they could intentionally show, or attempt to show, that physical force was ineffective and caused more problem than it solved.

Keep reading a little further in that same study and you find:

“In a meta-analysis of 26 studies, Larzelere and a colleague found that an approach they described as “conditional spanking” led to greater reductions in child defiance or anti-social behavior than 10 of 13 alternative discipline techniques, including reasoning, removal of privileges and time out (Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review, 2005). Larzelere defines conditional spanking as a disciplinary technique for 2- to 6-year-old children in which parents use two open-handed swats on the buttocks only after the child has defied milder discipline such as time out.”

And I rest my case.  Again this is what’s wrong with the America we live in today.  Intentionally misleading antagonists trying to skew our daily lives into the direction they want it to go.  Stop letting them do it.  Take a moment and use common sense…and if necessary, hand these people their teeth.

If anyone wants to check the actual study this moron pulled her data from to verify my quotes, you can do so here: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx

I’m not saying beat children.  And the older ones are a little beyond it.  But tantruming toddlers will do what you let them do and the fastest way to shut it down is with some physical whallup to the butt.  Deal with it.  Man hasn’t been doing this since living in caves because it was ineffective.  It’s been a continuous method of child rearing for thousands of years.  And even the bible directs us in this matter…spare the rod and spoil the child…remember that one?

PROVERBS 13:24

So the next time you feel the fricking need to tell somebody not to spank their child, stop and ask yourself WHAT WOULD JESUS DO?  Depending on how tyrannical your toddler is, he might give you the belt from his robe.

Food for thought.