How to Feel Sexy Again (Even When Your Confidence Is at Its Lowest)

You’ve been avoiding bedroom time with your partner for the past few weeks. Every time you look in the mirror, you can’t help but cringe. You haven’t felt sexy or confident in months.

Thinking of yourself as sexy can be a difficult thing to achieve. Especially with social media and Instagram showing images of women and men that the world seems to see as attractive. It doesn’t do wonders for the self-esteem.

It’s time for you to reclaim yours. We can tell you how to feel sexy again. Keep reading for a full list of techniques to try out.

Make Little Changes to Your Appearance 

If you want to know how to feel sexier for yourself, the answer is the little things. Trust us when we say that it doesn’t take much. All you have to do is spend five extra minutes getting yourself ready in the morning. 

Take the time to throw on a little mascara and maybe pair it with some Chapstick or lip-gloss. You don’t need salon hair to look good. Spray on some dry shampoo and run your hands through your hair. 

Not only will your locks appear to be clean but you’ll have a tousled sexy look. Put on a nice outfit that you haven’t worn in a while before you leave the house. It doesn’t matter if you’re only going to the store down the block for milk. 

Engage with Sexy Media 

Pick up a racy book (or fanfiction, no judgment here) and give it a read. Instead of focusing on the usual Instagram models, try to surround yourself with ads that portray people with bodies like yours. 

Listen to sexy music or turn on a movie with a few sensual scenes in it. There’s just something about engaging with sexual media that can give you a nice confidence boost. 

It might be because it gives you the chance to let your mind fantasize. Books especially can allow you to replace the character in the scene with yourself. 

Take Your Credit Card for a Spin

Don’t destroy your credit by buying more than you can pay back but have a little fun. Go buy an outfit that fits your curves just right and looks banging on you. 

Buy a gorgeous set of lingerie. Guys, this goes for you too. Pick out a set of undies that make you feel sexy and confident. 

This tip isn’t gendered exclusive. Keep in mind when you’re buying the new bedroom attire that you shouldn’t pick it out with the thought of wearing it in front of your partner. You’re doing this for you. 

Girls, it will be hard for you to feel sexy in lingerie that’s too small or large on you. Don’t be afraid to walk up to the store clerk and ask them to measure you. 

Relax 

It’s not easy to feel attractive and sexy when you’re worried all the time. Relax your shoulders, remove your tongue from the roof of your mouth, and take some time to simply exist. 

For some people, the idea of needing to be sexy is stressful in itself. Don’t feel pressured into it or force yourself. Do what comes naturally and the rest will fall into place. 

Dance Like You’re Home Alone

Dancing around in your living room or kitchen feels silly, we know but bear with us. Think about every teen drama or movie you watched when someone is singing into their hairbrush. They look like they’re having fun. 

Fun is sexy. Throw on a tune that you like and go for it! Paying attention to the way your hips swing with the beat might be enough for you to get your groove back. 

Exercise also releases a boost of feel-good endorphins throughout the body, which can make you feel happy and give you a good boost of confidence. 

Do a Boudoir Shoot

If you have the money for it, doing a boudoir shoot is a great method for how to feel sexier. Taking the plunge and booking a shoot will force you to meet your insecurities head-on and tackle them. 

When you get the photos back and see how great you look, you’ll realize that your small imperfections don’t matter. You look amazing! 

One issue that many people have with meeting with a photographer is confidentiality. They’re scared that their pictures will end up on Insta. If that sounds like you, read more about this here to quell your fears a little. 

Talk to Your Partner 

If you have a partner, go talk to them about your confidence issues. Don’t be afraid to tell them what makes you feel sexy and how they can help with your self-confidence. 

Granted, some of the love needs to come from you but your partner is there to give things a little push. Tell them where you like to be touched.

Give them a list of phrases they can say that will make you feel sensual. This works for activities in and out of the bedroom. 

Masturbate 

Masturbation can make you feel sexier faster than anything. It allows you to explore your body and fantasies while focusing on your pleasure. 

You’ll be able to see yourself as a sexual being. Masturbating also gives you a little hit of dopamine and helps you calm down when you’re stressed. 

How to Feel Sexy Again and Gain a Little Confidence 

Learning how to feel sexy again isn’t as easy as some make it seem. The good news is that there are tons of little ways to make yourself feel confident again. Go out and buy a bomb outfit. 

Put on a little makeup if you’re feeling frisky and talk to your partner about what they can do to help you out. Whatever you have to do to feel like you. 

Are you looking for more weird ways to feel attractive? Check out our blog daily for all the latest tips and tricks. 

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