Breaking Free From the Addiction of Codependent Behavior

Enabling is often confused with empowering. Truth is, both are born out of a desire to help. It is a natural instinct to want to help someone you love, the problem arises when helping transitions to hurting instead. To a certain degree, everyone can be an enabler so it is important that people learn to identify when they have crossed the “invisible” border and entered the land of destruction.

The desire to want to help others is one of the noblest of human instincts until that help perpetuates rather than solves a particular problem. It is innate for parents to want to help their children, friends want to help others they are in relation with and spouses to want to help their mate. This well-meaning instinct can often backfire when it interferes with the consequence of certain behaviors.

Enabling tends to counter one of the most valuable laws or principles of  life called cause and effect. This principle states – very simply stated – every   … click HERE to continue reading