Being Controlled: How To Be A Freebird For Good (Video).

As they say nothing in this world is for free. At least material things anyway. Presents and gifts are rarely free… unless you are that rare individual who is kind like my cat Spiffy Spotty. Usually behind these presents or gifts can either just fill the void in someone’s psyche that they are a good person or they except something in return and sometimes that can be control over an individual’s life. Do you feel like you are being controlled? If you do please read on and I will share some mechanism on how to get control over your life and to begin to be a freebird. 

 Smothering Terrified of feeling alone. Their overbearing presence discourages independence.

Depriving Convinced they will never get enough of what they need, Depriving individuals withhold attention and encouragement.  They love conditionally, giving affection when a person pleases them, withdrawing it when displeased.

Perfectionistic Paranoid about flaws.  These individuals fixate on order, prestige, power and/or perfect appearances.

Cultlike Distressed by uncertainty, Cultlike individuals have to be “in the know,” and often gravitate to military, religious, social or corporate institutions or philosophies where they can feel special and certain.

Chaotic Caught up in an internal cyclone of instability and confusion, Chaotic individuals tend toward mercurial moods, radically inconsistent discipline, and bewildering communication.

Using Determined never to lose or feel one-down.  Hypersensitive and self-centered, Using individuals see others’ gains as their loss.

Abusing Perched atop a volcano of resentment, Abusing individuals verbally or emotionally bully — When they’re enraged, Abusing individuals view a person as threats and treat them accordingly.

Childlike Feeling incapable or needy. Childlike individuals woefully uncomfortable with themselves, encourage a person to take care of them, thereby controlling through role-reversal.

A Quote I found That Can Inspire Someone To Let Go And Be A Freebird For Good:

I have asked for a dialogue on how we might free ourselves from our masters.  I am looking for a strategy, an approach, a movement, a sound, an action, a universal word, that can be adopted by all slaves to set ourselves free.

The problem is, of course, that most slaves do not recognize their bondage.  Most believe they are free because, in fact, as workers, they have the freedom to move from one slave master to the next.  Many find the idea of slavery too frightening to really understand.  Many wish to climb the slavery ladder to achieve a higher status as slave, that is, a position of greater power and wealth.  So two conditions must occur before we can consider the road to freedom:  The first is to recognize our slavery.  The second is a desire to be free of it

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How To Save Money And Become A Complete Freebird

When you look up saving money tips online you usually find the same old advice…don’t go out to eat a lot, get rid of your credit card…blah blah blah. Although all of this is commen sense most of us don’t do it. Well if you do…you go nugget! Here is some more advice on saving money to become a freebird.

1. Looking for a free place to live? Live in a commune! Yes they do still exist…no they are not all like hippie communes.

2. If you are in school apply for as many scholarships as you can, work your butt off, and try to always do a work- study program.

3. Make some homemade products like soaps or shampoos…it’s cheap and can get you some extra cash.

4. Use a 30-day list. To curb impulse buys, create a 30-day list. When you want to buy something, other than a true necessity (medicine or food, for example), put it on this list, with the date you added it to the list. And make it a rule that you can’t buy anything for at least 30 days after you put it on the list. And stick to it. You’ll find that you buy a lot less with this system.

Frugal exercise. Exercise is important, but it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. Although the YMCA and every gym membership isn’t that bad. You can always buy weights for home and have a great workout and save money by getting some good ole’ Vitamin D and exercising outside.

Cut the cell phone…or get a super cheap plan like I did. Why waste your money on a fancy and very expensive smartphone? Your not cool for having one and it’s a waste of money in my opinion. If you really have to get one like I had to do buy a super cheap minute phone. My cellular device was around $17.00…just a regular cell phone with no camera and I can pay around twenty five dollars a month for mobile web, texting, and calling. I usually don’t use the web though. It’s the cheapest plan I could find at Wally World for a minute phone… what a SCORE!

Maintain your vehicle. A vehicle that runs smoothly uses less gas than one that is poorly maintained. Regular oil changes, air filter and other recommended maintenance will all help to give you a fuel-efficient vehicle. I’m really going to have to get on this.

Keep your tires inflated. Actually, studies have shown that the savings on gas isn’t huge, but it does make a small difference to keep your tires inflated to the recommended pressure. And more importantly, this is also safer and makes your tires last longer.

Don’t drive during rush hour. Go to work, and come home from work, either earlier or later if possible, to avoid the rush hour. Getting stuck in a traffic jam, and stop-and-go driving, is one of the worst ways to waste gas.

Minimize idling. One of the worst offenders in lowering your gas mileage, idling gets you zero miles per gallon. If you are going to idle for a minute or less, leave your car on, but if it’s going to be much longer than a minute, you should turn off your car.

Drive slower. Driving the speed limit is more fuel efficient than speeding.

For all of you stick- shift lover out there! Use higher gears. Driving fast in low gears is bad for fuel economy as well. Drive in as high a gear as possible, unless you’re down-shifting in order to slow down or control speed.

Roll up windows on highway. While many people think they’re saving money by turning off the air-conditioner, it actually creates a strong drag if you are driving fast with the windows down, and is worse for your fuel economy. If you are driving slow, around town, turn off the air-conditioner and roll down the windows. Roll them up on the highway. Who knew?

Park in shade. A hot car evaporates gas. If it’s a hot day, park in the shade, and use your garage.

Use cruise control. This method has actually been proven to save a lot of gas, as it reduces heavy acceleration and heavy use of the brake. A steady driving speed will improve fuel economy..

Don’t buy hot gas. Buy gas during the morning or evening hours, when it’s cool, or you will be buying gas at a time when it’s expanded (and thus getting less).

I’m going to listen to this every morning to remind me that I can and will be a FREEBIRD…plus it’s a killer song.

Try Alternative lifestyle tips for saving money and becoming a freebird:

Stay groovy…and be a freebird!

Sincerely,

Radical Rose

http://radicalrose.wordpress.com

Resources:

http://www.bargainist.com/deals/2007/08/20-tips-to-save-money-on-gas/

http://zenhabits.net/the-cheapskate-guide-50-tips-for-frugal-living/