Detachment, Dealing With Negativity, and a Word About Money

Jason – Hi Steven, what is your view on detachment and its role in the manifestation process?

Hi Jason, and thank you for your question.

Detachment is supposed to occur once you feel that your chosen situation or circumstance is on its way to you.

By feeling, I don’t refer to emotion; I refer to a sense of knowing, or confidence that you have successfully altered and shaped situations or circumstances of your life to how you wish them to unfold.

The Bible refers to this time as the Sabbath, the day of rest. This is the moment when you are satisfied that you have set in motion the events that will eventually lead to the experience you wish to have manifest.

The six working days prior to this point do not really matter. That is to say that six days of work chosen to represent the time and effort put in to focusing your intentions to direct quantum forces and influence reality were chosen simply to illustrate a passage of time, and the cycle of seven days fits the cycle of a week.

The six days of work (focusing and getting yourself to the point of knowing that your goal will manifest) can last a few hours to several years, depending upon how much work you are willing to put in, how quickly you become self-persuaded that your dreams absolutely will come true, and how strongly you are measuring an inner sense of purpose and power.

Detachment only ever truly occurs once the situation or circumstance is experienced in outer physical reality: you have attained your goal and you are no longer focused upon it internally because you are experiencing it externally with your physical senses.

Having said that, there is a moment when you are finally ready, when you finally know that your chosen experience is about to unfold – and this is a completely natural event. You do not consciously let go and become detached. It all happens naturally because you know that your reality is about to change.

It’s not about choosing a desire and then letting go – it’s about focusing on an intention to the point of natural release due to acceptance and recognition of the fact that your chosen experience is about to unfold.

Anonymous (via tumblr) – How can we stay positive and in alignment with our desires when our loved ones are negative? Most say to distance myself from them, but one of them is my significant other and I don’t want to distance myself but I also don’t like that I am adopting his apathy and negativity.

Thank you for your question.

This is a difficult question to tackle. It’s right that you should distance yourself from negative people. As you’ve found, the negativity will begin to influence you. On the other hand, you can’t just leave your significant other or loved ones.

Can you?

I would suggest that you first seek to use the negativity to your advantage. Start to use negative words or instances of negative behaviour from others to strengthen your positive alignment with your desire. Train yourself to use the negativity to automatically trigger an image of your desire.

If someone is down and complaining, condition yourself to use those things to remind you of where your focus should be.

You are also allowing others to dictate your mindset and influence your thoughts. Be strong and dismiss what’s going on outside of you, and start turning within to dictate the behaviour of others.

Use your mind to imagine those around you cheering up and expressing positivity. See and hear them acting and behaving in a more uplifting and supportive manner.

Try also to limit your contact as much as possible – which will be difficult in your case. Try to put yourself in the company of others more like yourself, people who can support you, uplift you, and think as you do.

The flip side to the last suggestion would be to talk to your loved ones and significant other and tell them how you feel. Are they aware that they are having a negative effect on you? Ask them to support you. Ask them to consider things from your point of view.

Perhaps you could even ask them if there are any ways in which you could support them and show them a more positive way to look at and experience life.

Sometimes difficult questions have difficult answers. Love can blind us. We can put up with a lot because we have grown accustomed to a certain way of living. Ultimately, you can only do what’s best for you. If loved ones are holding you back, and it doesn’t seem as though anything is going to change – and they have no wish to accept your help and guidance – you might eventually have to make a difficult choice.

This would be a drastic action and one not to take lightly. Exhaust all other options first. Again, ultimately, you are the only one responsible for your own measurement of purpose, your own happiness. You can’t make others happy if they are absolutely set on experiencing life in other ways.

Bottom line: if others are contributing to a personal measurement of a lack of purpose, making you unhappy, holding you back – and try as you might, you can’t influence them to behave differently – then remove those people from your life and seek out the ones that you truly belong with, the ones who will support you, value you, and help you realise your desires.

Sometimes the threat of losing a loved one is enough to alter a behaviour. If those you leave behind care enough, they will eventually find their way back to you, and they will be more in alignment with who you are.

Malcolm – Why do most people find it so hard to obtain large amounts of money? What do you think our attitude about money should be?

Hi Malcolm, and thank you for your questions.

People normally find it hard to obtain large amounts of money because they can’t identify with being something like a multi-millionaire. Also, the dream is always about winning the lottery and yet most are unable to generate the confidence needed to influence and alter reality in ways that would lead to that lottery win.

Another way to look at this is to realise that it’s not really about the money at all – it’s about what the money can bring you.

Money is simply a means to an end. Instead of focusing on winning the lottery, focus might be better directed when placed upon owning a big beautiful home, having freedom, experiencing happiness every day, etc.

It’s a bit like sitting down to watch your favourite TV show. When you do, you’re only focused on the end result. You’re not focused on the writers, the actors, the sets, etc. You’re focused upon the fictional characters and story lines.

Your desire or what you want to experience are the characters and story-lines of your favourite TV show. The lottery win or money is the writers, actors, sets, etc. that bring those characters and story lines to you.

You don’t need to worry about set design, actors, scripts, etc. All you need to focus upon is the fictional world you want to enjoy.

Before becoming too caught up with money, I would recommend that people consider what it is they want the money for. People want freedom, happiness, and to feel valued and worth something. Money is just one way of bringing you these things.

There’s more of an incentive to have the life of your dreams than there is to ‘guess’ the numbers drawn in a forthcoming lottery. Plus, it’s easier to build confidence in having something you deeply desire to experience than it is to build confidence in predicting lottery numbers.

Focus on the end result that you want to experience, and any lottery wins or money that comes your way will be viewed by you as simply the means to help you reach your end goal.

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