What is your reality?

At Maggie’s Farm, Dr. Joy Bliss wonders if anyone is living in reality!

Or do we live in our own worlds, constructed from various presuppositions, superstitions, traditions, and preferred fantasies about ourselves, about others, and the world?

I have come to believe that everybody including me lives in some degree of a fantasy world, ranging from a little crazy (a few fantasies about self and others) to totally nuts (with minimal reality-testing especially with emotional issues). The further one is from consensual reality, the less effective in life one becomes. And to make it all more complex, consensual “real” is cultural and sub-cultural.

Not asserting that there is no “real,” but that that experience is highly subjective and frequently distant from regular “real,” in ordinary people. 35% of Americans believe the earth is flat, and God knows how many believe in UFOs. Yes, people are crazy.

TS Eliot: “Humankind can not bear very much reality.”

This topic came up over dinner last night. I became the devil’s advocate, of course, because everybody tends to think that their reality is the real one. People will defend their own reality to the point of war because so much of what they think about themselves depends on it.

When that is challenged or threatened, people can go berserk. Happens with sports teams, and politics, too. With religion, it’s just too much.