(2/2011) End Times: Return To Your Spouse

By Liz Colado

REALITY: A NOW SERIES

“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.”~Mother Teresa

We live in dangerous times. 

During times of turmoil, it is not good that a woman live alone.  Though commonplace today, it is a rarity in other cultures and in our past that a woman did so.  A few did, but even they masqueraded as men for safety.  Whether sister, wife, daughter, aunt, or mother–a single woman has almost always lived under a man’s protection.  the majority of single women today are divorcees.  At fault or not, the reality of the situation in a changing world is not good.  Even worse, a woman alone or on the run during a time of war.  Unfortunately, the circumstances become even grimmer for a single woman with children.

Let’s face it women, some men are not good.  They have chosen to live immorally. Some are even dangerous.  Few will protect an unknown woman and her kids.  That guy at the bar?  Who is he anyway?  Oh yeah–he was arrested for slipping a date rape drug into the drinks of many women.  This can happen to anyone.  Who will you trust?  And it is also no longer uncommon to read about gangs breaking into a single woman’s home to rape her and her teenaged daughter.

Who will help you?

I propose that many of you women reconcile with your first husbands–the father of your children.

Shocking?

Perhaps. 

Impossible?

No.

Even to just be on friendly terms again would be acceptable.  Many men and women are now living without sufficient funds after being cleaned out by divorce costs–lawyers, etc…  Family finances are wiped out.  Bankruptcy has been declared.

Women, if your ex-husband was not abusive, not a child molester, etc…and is a good father–recognize this and ASK HIM to return to the home.  (The home is not the house, it is wherever the family lives together.)  The ex could even sleep in a separate room.

Offer forgiveness.  Ask forgiveness.  There is no perfect person and in the case of most divorces, the problems came from both sides.  Often the difficulty was a breakdown in communication.

Indeed, this is a radical idea, but one which will work.  Many divorced and separated couples are already living this way.  They key is to face the reality of the situation, offer real forgiveness and give real forgiveness.  The past MUST be left unsaid.  The future is what can be–a new start.

What is the future nationally and globally?

Homelessness–already growing.  Shelters in Michigan were packed this winter with women and children.

Famine–food costs are high as foreign countries begin to hoard stapes and crop production is down due to climate change

Energy–costs are rising as World War III revolves around the fight for resource ownership

Crime–as there is less available, those without money and morals will take what they want (society breaks apart)

Poverty–jobs are down as the United States and the West in general is crushed by enemies

A man or men on the premises is the physical presence of authority, power, protection, and will make bad guys think twice.  And, it will take more than one adult to keep a family safe.  A man, preferably a relative, will be NECESSARY in the home.

Men, I ask you to offer yourselves to your ex-wives as the real men that you are.  Be leaders.  Be courageous.  Tell your family that you love them yet and will protect them.  (If you’ve been chasing loose women or are out drinking all night, stop.  These behaviors are incompatible with leadership.  Keep a clear mind.)

True love between a man and a woman never really goes away.  Long ago, you loved each other enough to build a life together, make a promise, have a child.  That love is still there, deep inside.  Love is real.  It is what will even transcend death and be carried on as we return to God.  And this knowledge is what allows one to lay down his or her life for the family in some instances. 

But men, God is not asking you to die.  God asks you to live and see your family through the coming crisis.

To get through you must prepare yourself mentally.  Fast and pray one or two days.  (Women too should fast and pray.)

Spiritual Fasting is the physical emptying of the body, just as to cry out to God in prayer empties the soul.  The soul and the body are fused.  What happens to the soul, through the inner-workings of the subconscious in fasting (the calling out to God, dreams, visions, etc..) is the building of the mind toward the body.  It is not a system of manmade rules about a time to fast, the abstinence of specific foods and practices, rather look inside your heart.  Through this practice, God sees that the one fasting is in a time of serious spiritual struggle.  We do this to seek the truth of God.

First, do not live in denial.  Many of you believe that life will return to what it was even just 6 months ago.  It ain’t happen’ng.  This is the New Normal. (Find any kind of honest employment and work. You’ll feel better about providing an income for your family.)

Second, call upon God for help.  God is real.  He is waiting for you to turn to Him.  It is His desire that all would be saved.

Third, follow His guidance by making a plan for your family, whether it’s to move or to stay in one place.

Fourth, do not hesitate. (Safety comes in following God’s instructions.  God requires obedience.  With the obedience comes Divine direction for life-saving guidance.  Without this guidance, you’re on your own.  God’s plan is the best.  In the end, there really is only God to save you.)

Fifth, remember, to ignore God is to lose your family and your own life.  It is a mistake to throw away Divine instruction.   For almost everyone, at some point, this direction will mean life or death.  Men, you are responsible to God and your families, I implore you to listen to common sense.

Men, your wives are not without their own Divine guidance from God.  Many of them already know Him personally and follow His Will.  Listen to these women.  They want only the best for you.  I call upon you men to return to God and be the leaders of your own families.  Women do not want mama’s boys, alcoholics, carousers, etc… They want a man who says, “I follow God.  I love you, no matter what.”

Men, to do this, is to receive the love and encouragement of a good woman who would literally follow you anywhere and through any dangerous situation.  She will have your back.  She will listen to you without question and God will bless those men who live in this way.

All people must join together as one, in search of peace with each other, within our own country and around the world–recognizing that no matter the faith: Christian, Jew, Hindu, etc.. God belongs to all.  Love others as yourself and begin with your family.  Love is God’s Law. 

USA, Under Attack

Liz Colado, essayist and poet, resides in the United States.  A poet since childhood, her poems reflect the images and premonitions of her subconscious dreams.  The writing of poetry has been her escape to a world apart, a dimension of other, a reality considered.  The meaning of poetry has helped center her all of her life.  She is also the main character of a life exposed, written by an anonymous author.  Read the poetry of Liz Colado and consider the interior of her mind to be the discovery of a personal dream journal on the edge. Visit Liz Colado’s Writer’s Page.

Copyright © 2006-2011, Basil & Spice. All rights reserved.

Copyright © Basil & Spice. All rights reserved. http://www.basilandspice.com/journal/” target=”_blank”Basil & Spice does not provide professional advice, diagnosis or treatment of any kind — medical, legal, professional, personal. The opinions you read on this site are those of members of the Basil & Spice community, not necessarily those of Basil & Spice.

Read more at Basil & Spice