Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted to People? - Crappy Childhood Fairy (Video)
In this 1 May 2025 Modern Wisdom video, host Chris Williamson talks with Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, a trauma educator, Youtuber and an author.
Why do some people fall so hard, so fast? It might not be love, but it could be limerence. So what exactly is limerence, what triggers it, and how do you handle it, whether you’re experiencing it or the one receiving it?
Expect to learn what limerence is and how it differs from infatuation or a crush, what the main emotions behind limerence is and what causes it, why some people get hardcore limerence and others don’t, if limerence is a type of mental illness or if it can be caused by just good sex, how modern media depictions of functional and dysfunctional relationships contribute to limerence, if limerence if more common in women or men and more.
https://youtu.be/BBthcu_nNlc
00:00 What Is The Meaning Of Limerence?
04:57 Does An Anxious Avoidant Relationship Entail Limerence?
07:21 The Main Emotions Of A Limerent Person
21:51 Is There An Imbalance Of Value In The Mind?
26:41 What Causes Limerence?
35:53 Example Of A Limerent Person And LO
39:38 Seeking Out The Right Relationship
44:35 Why Limerence Doesn’t Affect Everyone
50:11 Managing Our Own Needs And Responsibility
58:19 Does Limerence Serve An Evolutionary Purpose?
1:01:16 Is Limerence An Addiction?
1:14:32 Does Limerence Effect One Gender More Than The Other?
1:18:50 How To Overcome Limerence
1:22:40 Where To Find Anna