The Things I Hate About Myself

Close your eyes for
minute and imagine the most beautiful, flawless person… Can you do it? More
importantly have you ever seen that person walking around your neighborhood? My
guess is you probably haven’t.

I was looking at this
show called What Not to Wear. This show is not just about makeovers for the not
so fashionable, but it’s also about building self esteem. A lot of these people
on the show have serious issues with their bodies and it has caused them to cut
themselves off from the world. Let’s face it we all have things we don’t
like about ourselves. However when these things start to effect how we live our
lives then it’s a problem.

I can’t stand my nose,
it’s too wide.  My face is too fat.  I would never look good in that
outfit I am too fat. My hair is too course, lips too big, butt to flat, feet
too big wide, belly to flabby…  Men and women are constantly inflicting
verbal abuse on themselves. Saying words that cause their self esteem to get so
low they don’t know how to get back up.   Beating ourselves up until
we want to hide or take extreme measures to change who we are or what makes us
unique.

It’s sad to think about
how we have more unkind words to say about ourselves then we have kind words.
We are also more likely to believe the negative things people say then the
positive. It’s hard to hear how accepting people are of you when you’re not
accepting of yourself.

The Truth Is… No one
on this earth is perfect everyone has a flaw or flaws (for lack of a better
word). These flaws are not designed to make you a freak or ugly. They are there
to make you unique.  It’s something that you have that no one else
does.  Yet we think of them as hindrances things make us imperfect not
only to ourselves but to the rest of the world as well. Things that make us
lose confidence in ourselves. Things make us hide away from the world and not
take our rightful place in it. I can’t imagine not taking a chance on living my
dreams because I have a scare on my face. Not applying for my dream job because
I carry around a couple of extra pounds. It’s all superficial. We all want to
look good on the outside and trust me you can. But no extreme makeover in the
world is going to help you until you start embracing who you are. God made each
of us in his image which makes us beautiful. Flaws and all.  So be
accepting of yourself and you won’t have to rely on someone else to tell
special, kind or how beautiful you are. Look in the mirror every morning and
tell yourself you are beautiful. Do it as many times as you have to until you
believe it. The words that you say to yourself have a far greater effect on you
then anything anyone else can say. I love this quote “There are only two
people that can love you without disappointment, you and God” by Bernajoy Vaal.