Chinese Brides: A Good Choice for an Asian Wife?

There has been a lot of competition among many Asian and Eastern European countries, but websites for Chinese women, whether as mail order brides or for more traditional marriages always seem to be the most popular. Despite the proliferation and popularity of these sites, there are plenty of other options for men interested in marrying Chinese women.
Why do so many men find Chinese women so attractive? Let’s take a look at some common traits and perceptions of Chinese women to find out. We’ll also discuss how “mail order” brides compare to traditional dating and marriage.

1. Why men from many cultures prefer Chinese brides
There are plenty of options for foreign men seeking an Asian wife, but Chinese brides are nearly universally preferred as a top choice or one of a top few choices. Here are some reasons why:

Physical:
• Inherent beauty – Chinese women have fine features and beautiful, typically, long, straight, black hair.
• Chinese women are feminine and charming -They have a reputation for being able to come across as coy, charismatic, sexy and feminine, all at the same time.
• Presentation – many Chinese women, girlfriends and, of course, brides tend to have a great sense of style and an ability to look great in just about anything.

Emotional:
• Loyalty – As a culture, Chinese women are incredibly loyal to their families. A Chinese bride is a solid rock who supports her husband in his career and her children in their education. Don’t be intimidated by the stereotypical ‘Dragon Mother’, it’s her way of showing she wants to do everything she can to ensure the success of those in her family.

• Dedication and work ethic – Chinese women are driven to succeed and are not afraid of hard work. Chinese women tend to be overachievers and will do everything they can to set the bar high for themselves and for their families. Increasingly, Chinese women are choosing to expand their sphere by establishing successful careers for themselves.

2. Why Chinese women are attracted to foreign men
Don’t think for a moment that the attraction between Chinese women and men from other cultures is one-sided. Chinese women are just as interested in foreign men as the men are in them, and for a number of reasons. Keep in mind that there are a lot of marriages between Chinese girls and foreign men, so we’re not saying that all are the same. Still, there are some fairly common themes.

• Economics – Though Chinese women are increasingly independent and well-educated, the fact remains that some are still quite poor and are looking for a way to rise above the hardships that they’ve endured. Foreign men offer a new life in a new country where they can gain a level of status and security they may not be able to find at home.
• Patriarchy – Despite the increasing education and independence of Chinese women, the fact remains that they still live in a very male-dominated society. This male domination isn’t just in terms of social matters, but also inheritance and family lineage. Ambitious Chinese women often feel repressed and are interested in a foreign man who will be more likely to encourage her in her goals.
• Liberal western ideologies – Many Chinese women feel that foreign men, especially those from western cultures, are more at ease with gender equality and more open to women who want to further their education and career opportunities.

3. Traditional dating or mail order brides?
Now that we have an idea of what attract men to Chinese women, and Chinese women to foreign men, let’s examine some of the reasons for mail order brides and the differences between them and traditional dating. There are a number of ways a Chinese woman might meet a foreign man.
Traditional ways include:
• Some Chinese women meet men who happen to be working in China. He might work for an international company, working for a contractor, or on a business trip when he meets a prospective bride.
• Some Chinese women meet foreign men when they are working overseas. She might be working for a Chinese company with branches in other countries, or she may be working for an international company.
• Some Chinese women meet men who happen to be studying at a University in China.
• Some Chinese women meet foreign men while they are studying abroad.
But not all Chinese women are fortunate enough to travel, either for school or work, and may not live near major centers of commerce like Shanghai or Beijing where foreign men are more likely to be found. There are also women who may not have given much thought to marrying a foreign man, but has found herself still single at an age where, due to prejudices and customs, she may have a harder time finding a Chinese man to marry. For all of these women, the internet offers a couple of modern alternatives, including:
• Dating websites – Chinese women can find foreign men by posting a profile on a dating website. She might be looking for a man who is working or studying in China or one who travels frequently. Either way, he may not have the time or inclination to meet Chinese women in more traditional ways but is still wants to have a Chinese wife
• Mail order brides – Some Chinese women live either in very remote areas or in situations where they are more motivated to find a foreign man, but without the means to do so. For these women, becoming a mail order bride seems a reasonable way to get where she wants to be.

When all is said and done, it’s all a matter of supply and demand. Either way you look at it, as long as both parties are happy with the arrangement, does it really matter how you and your Chinese bride find one another?