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Happiness - As Simple as Counting Your Blessings

Tuesday, December 22, 2015 8:13

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“Life is largely a mind game,” says my friend John Bilyk. “We live in our heads. And because of this, we can create our own reality.”

John describes how he used thought to bounce back from a crippling career setback and come out far ahead.

by John Bilyk

(henrymakow.com)

After being a RN for 6 years, I got the call I dreaded. Instead of showing up for my shift on the surgical unit, I was to report to HR. Once there, I was told that I was an unsafe nurse, and a danger to my patients.

I knew it was a lie. They were just out to get me. I had never harmed a patient. In fact I was a favourite nurse. Not that it mattered. I somehow knew it was coming. There was a personality conflict. I was happy. My supervisors were miserable.

I knew they were going to take my license away, and more so, my identity. I loved my job.

Everyone knew I was a RN/BN (4 year degree). I worked in exciting areas and places – the ER, ICU, surgical, etc, from southern Florida to northern Manitoba in a little prop plane. People liked and respected me. And I could see they were going to take it all away from me.

I accepted the fact. I barely put up a fight. I prepared myself for change. Then I realized its just my ego. No one will physically touch me. The only pain I will feel is the pain I give myself. No one will know I lost a dream job unless I act like it.

I told myself and others that I wanted to leave nursing, so I acted like I took a voluntary leave from nursing. No moping, no crying, just getting on and looking for different jobs. The day after they suspended my license, I started a job as a carpet cleaner for minimum wage.

It was humbling, but I needed it. And I enjoyed the work. Instead of self pity, I realized that I ought to be grateful for all my experiences, and the many assets that I still have. My house, health, friends, etc. So many have it so much worse.

I then thought those closest to me – my dog, niece, nephew, friends, don’t really care what I do, as long as I stay who I am. A nice, happy guy. And I didn’t really care what I did, as long as I could help people.

I learned not to define myself by how I make money, nor how those in authority see me, but by who I am.

I learned that when you can give up something before someone takes it, then it doesn’t matter if they take it. By the time the nursing board took my license, it meant nothing to me. I was already finished level 1 in plumbing and had no intention of ever practise nursing again.

NON MATERIALISM

I embraced non-materialism, and tried to see how little I could live from. I traded a fancy motorcycle for a bicycle – and I realized I enjoyed life so much more.

Those that suspended me wanted to hurt me, but I pretended it didn’t hurt. And therefore it didn’t. In fact, it let me vent about all the bad things I didn’t like in nursing – and working with all guys was so much nicer. In my mind it was a summer vacation.

The carpet cleaning job was ok, but no career. I thought what ought a good person do if they find themselves in a bad situation.

So I set out to be the best person I could be, and with God on my side, I happened to clean carpets for someone who saw that I had a different attitude, and knew someone who was looking for an apprentice plumber. I called his friend and within 5 months of losing one life long career I was starting another.

Plumbing was great. I was learning, I loved the physical work, I was eager and keen everyday. My boss, who I still talk to, took an instant liking to me. And it was super for the ego. I was on top of the world again. Helping people, and making money.

GIVING LOVE

Henry asked me how I can love people who aren’t loveable. My answer is to look past their annoying human traits, rise above human reaction, and realize they are a spiritual being, as we all are. They just don’t know it. They act unconsciously, and I actually feel sorry for them. They don’t know the best side of themselves.

You can be your own best friend or worst enemy, and most people are their own worst enemy. The more irritating other people are to you, rest assured they are equally irritating to others, and even to themselves.

And that is their punishment. Ye shall reap what thou sow. If you spread misery, it is because you are miserable inside. You have to live with yourself. No one spends more time with you.

Love is in my heart and mind, and so, I like to be with myself. Actually, I like to be with God – and I am in my mind. If you think you are sitting beside God, you don’t need other people in the room. In fact, I find most people bring down my happiness level, so I try to limit how much time I spend with them. But at the same time, I know that life is not about me, it’s about what I can do to help others, and so I try to strike a balance between the two. The result is that I really value my time.

I love each and every day. Even this morning, I woke up, kissed my dog and said to him with lots of enthusiasm “Oh boy, another day!” Life is so fleeting. Our health, the health of those around us will only last so long. The key is to be aware and thankful of what is around you.

People like to be with others of a similar mindset. Those are your friends that “get” you. You can relax because you don’t have to explain yourself and watch your words.

Politeness, kindness and generosity are traits of spiritual people, and we do not look to the masses for our standards. Just because others may be cheap or rude, it does not mean you can.

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Source: http://henrymakow.com/2015/12/happiness-as-simple-as-counting-your-blessings.html

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